Crying himself to sleep.... just starting!

[Dukechick]

Okay, I'm so bad because I've always held, or rocked Cameron to sleep, and he's 14 months old!!

I really want to let himself learn to put himself to sleep, but it BREAKS MY HEART when he cries, and almost goes into a panic attack!!

I need advise on how to do this without scarring my son. Help please!!

 

[celine]

I was so guilty of this! I still bf though so I bf him til he is sdozey then out him down (we started this maybe at 6 months more strict) then stroke/shh say i love you and then leave, its a heartbreaker but we would go back in after 5 mins to repeat the process.

 

[Mommy Dearest]

Aww! My LO never has been rocked (apart from when she was a newborn, obviously) but she has had some trouble sleeping. When she cried herself to sleep I feel awful, it almost made ME have a panic attack. The way I handled it was jut by letting her cry . I would go in to hold her when she'd get out of control, but I'd only hold her long enough for her to stop crying... then I'd lay her back down. It took a few nights for her to get used to it, but I'll never forget the night she made it and realized it wasn't so bad . She seemed like such an independent big girl after that. Good luck! I know it's hard.

 

[Baby France]

We did controlled crying, putting him down then going back in after 5 minutes, no eye contact, just telling him its bo bo time in a soft voice and lying him back down, then 10 and finally 20...it took 4 nights in total and now he just lies straight down in his cot and sleeps.

It was the hardest thing to do and I say WE did it - it was OH really! As Jacob was in his cot crying, I was at the top of the stairs crying and my OH had to stop me from going in. It was heart breaking, so if you do do that be prepared for your own tears!!

Saying that I'm glad he did because sleep time is easy now with a routine of tea at 5, bath at 6 and bed at 7! The only time we have fuss is when he's teething!

 

[Mommy Dearest]

We did controlled crying, putting him down then going back in after 5 minutes, no eye contact, just telling him its bo bo time in a soft voice and lying him back down, then 10 and finally 20...it took 4 nights in total and now he just lies straight down in his cot and sleeps.

It was the hardest thing to do and I say WE did it - it was OH really! As Jacob was in his cot crying, I was at the top of the stairs crying and my OH had to stop me from going in. It was heart breaking, so if you do do that be prepared for your own tears!!

Saying that I'm glad he did because sleep time is easy now with a routine of tea at 5, bath at 6 and bed at 7! The only time we have fuss is when he's teething!

My OH had to do the same for me... it was so hard just to leave them be . It's definitely one of the hardest things to do. I just had to remind myself that there was nothing wrong with her, she's fine, she just doesn't want to go to sleep. Now she sleeps from 9 pm - about 10 am . I'm glad I saw it through.

 

[Baby France]

Mommy Dearest Was definately one of the hardest things to do!! But as you say, there's nothing wrong with them!! And so glad I did it too - 4 days of tears and now its so much easier!

 

[Mommy Dearest]

Mommy Dearest Was definately one of the hardest things to do!! But as you say, there's nothing wrong with them!! And so glad I did it too - 4 days of tears and now its so much easier!

I know, it's crazy. It is totally worth all of the tears... from the LO and from us lol! I remember sitting nearby telling my OH "i just need to go get her! *sob sob*" He'd have to stand in front of the door sometimes to stop me from rushing in there .

 

[Baby France]

Mommy Dearest Was definately one of the hardest things to do!! But as you say, there's nothing wrong with them!! And so glad I did it too - 4 days of tears and now its so much easier!

I know, it's crazy. It is totally worth all of the tears... from the LO and from us lol! I remember sitting nearby telling my OH "i just need to go get her! *sob sob*" He'd have to stand in front of the door sometimes to stop me from rushing in there .

My OH was exactly the same stood in front of the door! He banned me from going in! I told him he was a terrible father etc... even though Jacob ADORES him! Its not often he doesn't settle now!

 

[Sherileigh]

You know my story Dukechick and you know it's been so worth it for us! We still have issues every now and again but for the most part he goes down pretty well. OH had a few words with him last night as he didn't want to go to bed and he was SCREACHING....it was 100% temper. Daddy 'talked' to him sternly and we didn't hear a peep from him again! lol. Made me giggle. Usually Daddy's a big softie.
It's worth it in the end hun! You can do it! He won't remember I promise!

 

[Mommy Dearest]

Mommy Dearest Was definately one of the hardest things to do!! But as you say, there's nothing wrong with them!! And so glad I did it too - 4 days of tears and now its so much easier!

I know, it's crazy. It is totally worth all of the tears... from the LO and from us lol! I remember sitting nearby telling my OH "i just need to go get her! *sob sob*" He'd have to stand in front of the door sometimes to stop me from rushing in there .

My OH was exactly the same stood in front of the door! He banned me from going in! I told him he was a terrible father etc... even though Jacob ADORES him! Its not often he doesn't settle now!

I'm pretty sure I called him some not-so-nice names and told him he didn't understand how I felt ... I apologized and told him I was just upset. Although she may lay in her bed awake for a bit, she rarely ever has a screaming fit when its bedtime. I think keeping a schedule also plays a big part... especially when try to get them to sleep on their own.

 

[Arcanegirl]

We followed the sleepsense plan and though it does involve controlled crying, its more about what you are comfortable with in how you do it. It gives you the option to sit with them or not.

Alex is now at the stage where he never cries to sleep anymore, he knows the cues for bed and goes with no problems and even waves to me leaving the room!

 

[celine]

We followed the sleepsense plan and though it does involve controlled crying, its more about what you are comfortable with in how you do it. It gives you the option to sit with them or not.

Alex is now at the stage where he never cries to sleep anymore, he knows the cues for bed and goes with no problems and even waves to me leaving the room!

wow! I am strating to stricken up on nap time sleep and bedtime and the bedtime one is going very well I think lo must know and you gotta KNOW in your heart that you wont be back (except in 5/10) etc.

We used cc and it was so hard but good in the end. Plus I really learnt to decipher the cries better! Obviously if he has had a nightmare im in in a flash!

 

[daniandbaby]

I did cc best thing for me and kye, we both sleep better and wake up with smiles