Crying mess (sorry so long) =(

[HHenderson]

So stressed and feeling sorry for my child.

When they say, "when it rains it pours" well no shit.

Ive been stressed forever now. Happy that I have 99% of baby's things purchased and out of the way I started on buying parts for my car and uniforms for school. I got 50% of the uniforms bought, they were on sale early and I wanted to take advantage now instead of wait for them to be sold out. Well feeling great I got several things out of the way, I still knew I had to come up with the money for my husbands buddy, the mechanic to fix my car. No probs I have until the baby is born to do that. Parts are bought.

Knowing the baby is still 11 weeks away I figured things will be slowly purchased. My list consists of school clothes, shoes & supplies, two car license tag payments, my drivers license renewal, address change and name change and the payment to the mechanic. All of these things are at least $50+ each thing. Its not like I can just pull $700 out of my ass. OHH I also have my $500 hospital co-pay.

Well my point is, slowly I knew these things would get done in time. Its just very stressful knowing they are there and its alot of money before school starts and the baby arrives. Today I took my 8 year old to the dentist. Im not going to lie, she hasnt been in over a year. I am not a bad mother we moved and without OT at my husbands work some months its VERY tight and with a car payment (that is now gone) we kept putting it off. So now that everything is sorted out with finances she went. My whole life I have struggled with bad dental hygiene, bad genetics from my fathers side. My mom has easily spent over 20K on my mouth since I was 6 years old. I was praying that my daughter didnt inherit this. Her dad has had 3 cavities his whole life and those were in his baby teeth. REALLY!? UGH!! Well my poor babygirl has $860 worth of work to be done and thats AFTER insurance.

Add that into all the other crap I need to spend money on I have been in tears in my room trying to hide it from my daughter who doesnt need to see me like this. She will have to go through life living in a damn dental chair like I did. She brushes, flosses and mouthwashes morning and night. I make sure and watch her. It is very important to me, but to find this out I am heartbroken. I dont want to see her go through this. And the worse part, I feel like a POS who is bringing another child into this world knowing she might have the same problems because of me.

 

[girlinyork]

Awww you've clearly got a big heart to let this get to you. I'm sure with a mummy who loves her that much she can cope with anything

 

[alicecooper]

aww hun it's only teeth, not the end of the world *hugs*

 

[ShirlWirl]

Aww bless you - my boys are tge same. I have only had 1 filling my whole life but my boys have one every time we go to the dentist which is every 3 months. They take such good care of their teeth and I make it number 1 priority in the house that teeth are cleened! They only have cavities in their baby teeth - I just hope and pray that their adult teeth are strong. I also feel so bad as a mother about it but in my heart I know I have done the best for them and I'm sure in your heart you know that too. My cousin is a dentist and she said some children just have week teeth and we just have to do our best for them

 

[amber2727]

can i just add that i really like your language! i know it's weird, but JC, sometimes i feel like only foul language can get the point across. you sound like an amazing mother, and i know it's particularly difficult b/c you've planned everything out so well and this is an added expense (that you feel personally guilty for), but it will work out in the end. may take a little longer, but it will work out.

also, have you tried calling the insurance company? once i was completely flabbergasted that i had to pay $300 out of pocket for some cavity fillings and a root canal, and i was explained by the insurance co. that the dr. used a more expensive filling not covered by the insurance. i complained (nicely) to the office that i never asked for the expensive filling, and they adjusted accordingly...though it probably would have been easier for everyone involved to deal with this BEFORE. it was a headache, but the bill dropped $100. can you do a payment plan?

 

[HHenderson]

Aww bless you - my boys are tge same. I have only had 1 filling my whole life but my boys have one every time we go to the dentist which is every 3 months. They take such good care of their teeth and I make it number 1 priority in the house that teeth are cleened! They only have cavities in their baby teeth - I just hope and pray that their adult teeth are strong. I also feel so bad as a mother about it but in my heart I know I have done the best for them and I'm sure in your heart you know that too. My cousin is a dentist and she said some children just have week teeth and we just have to do our best for them

So far all baby teeth, the 4 she has that are adult teeth are going to be sealed to help protect them. I pray it works and I will get it done as many times as I need too.

 

[HHenderson]

can i just add that i really like your language! i know it's weird, but JC, sometimes i feel like only foul language can get the point across. you sound like an amazing mother, and i know it's particularly difficult b/c you've planned everything out so well and this is an added expense (that you feel personally guilty for), but it will work out in the end. may take a little longer, but it will work out.

also, have you tried calling the insurance company? once i was completely flabbergasted that i had to pay $300 out of pocket for some cavity fillings and a root canal, and i was explained by the insurance co. that the dr. used a more expensive filling not covered by the insurance. i complained (nicely) to the office that i never asked for the expensive filling, and they adjusted accordingly...though it probably would have been easier for everyone involved to deal with this BEFORE. it was a headache, but the bill dropped $100. can you do a payment plan?

I def have a potty mouth. lol I did go online to my insurance companies website and compared prices and it all seems to match. I also noticed they are doing tooth colored fillings on ALL baby teeth, so I called and asked why when they are going to fall out, they should be using the steel ones. She said they do not do them there, I guess I picked the fanciest dentist possible. It would of saved a buttload of money if they could have. The payment plan is not really a plan but I am dividing her trips into 3 different visits over the next two months. Her first appointment is next Tuesday and its $247. Yikes.

I could have bought her a pony or something in the end.

 

[nzjade]

Awww I'm sorry that really sux and is obviously upsetting you. The dentist is never a fun place to visit! I had to have all 4 wisdom teeth out last year and 5 fillings. Then at a check-up 6 months later I needed another filling! Eugh! Don't worry though, everything will work out and you sound like a great Mama!