Crying with strangers - AGH!!

Discussion in 'Baby Club' started by petal040, Dec 24, 2009.

  1. petal040

    petal040 Guest

    My LO has changed LOADS in the last couple of weeks. It's amazing... and really great... EXCEPT! She has started crying whenever anyone other than me or her dad tries to interact with her - e.g. look at her, talk to her etc - for more than thirty seconds or so.

    It's awful. Her bottom lip goes and then she is pretty much inconsolable for around an hour (if we stay in whatever place we are in).

    We have always gone out and socialised so it's not that she isn't used to be being out and about.

    It really is hellish and it's making me feel really put off taking her anywhere at all (although I still am taking her out as usual). I feel so awful when it happens I just want to leave (and cry myself!). I feel like everyone is wondering why I'm not solving it or are thinking it's because I spoil her or something. :nope:

    I know some babies go through this as a phase - my question is - how long can I expect it to last?
     
  2. // arcadia

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    My LO started doing this too, i just didnt thrust her into situations let her get used to her surroundings etc. It only lasted a few weeks.
     
  3. charliesmom

    charliesmom Dad, daughter, 2 chis

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    oh gosh, my little one just started doing this. She won't even let her dad hold her. She only stops crying if she's back in my arms. I hope it's just a phase and it'll go away... she's breaking her daddy's heart.
     
  4. Vickie

    Vickie Hannah & Rhys <3

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    Hannah went through that though she was a few weeks older. To be honest it lasted a few months with her (though the screaming when people looked at her only lasted a few weeks)..............she still isn't a fan of people she doesn't know touching her and forget them holding her most of the time. She's getting better, less shy and more open with people as long as she's given a chance to adapt to new situations.
     
  5. Happy

    Happy Mummy to Phoebe

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    Phoebe went though this at around 4 months and it is only now that she is fine with other people. It got really embarrasing when she cried around family members when they just so much as looked at her!

    She is fine now its like a switch was flicked over night, now she wont bat an eyelid if a stranger holds her. Hang in there it is just a phase they grow out of.
     
  6. Scally

    Scally Well-Known Member

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    This happened yesterday with Izzy, i am hoping its because there was so many people and they all like to get close up to her and all talk at her at once! Going to have a quiet few days to chill her out a bit
     
  7. Connah'sMommy

    Connah'sMommy Well-Known Member

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    Connah has only just started doing this,not sure how long it will last but not too long i hope! xx
     
  8. Blah11

    Blah11 ☼ Mummy to Amelie ☼

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    It lasted from about 5-10 months with amelie. Shes still a mummys girl but will happily sit with someone else now :)
     
  9. petal040

    petal040 Guest

    Phew! It's reassuring to hear from other's who have gone through this - it's awful isn't it? I can't help feeling embarrassed when it happens.

    We went visiting family on Christmas Day and today. Both times I explained the situation and said I was going to keep hold of LO and let her face away for a little while until she got 'settled in' and felt safe etc. People were very nice about it (although a couple didn't seem to get it and kept clapping at her etc anyway, and asking to hold her). I kept her close for about half an hour both times - and she was fine. Woohoo! I don't think that's the end of it yet but it was a relief to be able to relax a little. :)
     
  10. charliesmom

    charliesmom Dad, daughter, 2 chis

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    My babe starts crying as soon as she hears voices. We step into the hallway into the living room where about 8 adults are sitting and having really loud conversation and she starts crying hysterically immediately. The only way she can resettle is if I take her away from the noise like to a room by ourselves, or out of the house.
     

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