bump.on.brain
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So, I've probably headed over here a little early as DD is only 10 months old, but I thought you ladies might have a bit more insight into the way I'm feeling at the moment.
Basically, DH and I discussed it a few times over the last year, and came to the decision that for us it would be best to only have one child. It was a rational decision for reasons such as:
* the health issues I had in pregnancy
* the health issues DD has had since being born, which are apparently likely to also happen in future children (which also makes me concerned that if #2 suddenly needed a lot of care, DD could feel pushed out)
* financially we would like to be able to provide everything that DD needs in terms of good childcare, education etc, and might struggle a bit if we had 2 to provide for
As I said, I was involved in the decision, and rationally believe it is probably what is best for our family.... But at least once a month, I go through a phase where it makes me feel really sad to think that we will have no more children. I start remembering the excitement of being pregnant, the rush of love you have for your baby, and wonder how I will feel in years to come and whether I will regret never having that second child.
I guess what I'm wondering is whether anybody else has made these choices/feels this way? Is it just hormones putting the doubts in my mind? I feel like my body and brain are in a battle, and if I carry on like this for the next 10 years I may well drive myself mad!!!
(For the record, DH still adamantly does not want #2) Any advice or opinions would be very appreciated!!
Basically, DH and I discussed it a few times over the last year, and came to the decision that for us it would be best to only have one child. It was a rational decision for reasons such as:
* the health issues I had in pregnancy
* the health issues DD has had since being born, which are apparently likely to also happen in future children (which also makes me concerned that if #2 suddenly needed a lot of care, DD could feel pushed out)
* financially we would like to be able to provide everything that DD needs in terms of good childcare, education etc, and might struggle a bit if we had 2 to provide for
As I said, I was involved in the decision, and rationally believe it is probably what is best for our family.... But at least once a month, I go through a phase where it makes me feel really sad to think that we will have no more children. I start remembering the excitement of being pregnant, the rush of love you have for your baby, and wonder how I will feel in years to come and whether I will regret never having that second child.
I guess what I'm wondering is whether anybody else has made these choices/feels this way? Is it just hormones putting the doubts in my mind? I feel like my body and brain are in a battle, and if I carry on like this for the next 10 years I may well drive myself mad!!!
(For the record, DH still adamantly does not want #2) Any advice or opinions would be very appreciated!!