pola17
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Hi girls!
You see, DH and I live alone as my parents live in the states while the in laws in Armenia.
MIL arrived 3 weeks ago. I wasn't happy with the fact she came 3 months before baby is due, but I just want DH to be happy.
Since she arrived, at moments she's pushing me into following her ways. Also, she vomits everyday and told me she has gastritis. She told DH I'm lying and she's all good. She keeps eating things that make her sick, and walks around the house moaning and making a big drama.
This affects my husband a lot. He's so stressed and worried to the point he discharges his frustrations on me and we stopped feeling closer.
Also, she wants me to stay close to her the 24/7. If we go somewhere if I go to the restroom, she follows me. She never leaves me alone.
I stopped sleeping since about 4 days ago. When I think about her I start hyperventilating. She asks DH personal things about our relationship and she's become too nosy.
Yesterday he found me crying because I'm tired of her drama. I told him what I think. They had a fight and she started whining that if she's bothering me, she can go away. Of course, I'm the monster.
So my husband and I were arguing in our room last night. We weren't yelling or being violent. She stepped into our room. I was so angry I stormed out of the room. She invaded MY space without knocking.
She spoke with my husband. She defended me, yet she continued to enter our room through the night to see how I was doing. I kept her kicking her out of the room and DH refuses to lock the door "just in case"
I can't sleep. I feel she's coming into our room anytime. I can't cry or she'll ask me what's going on. I've told her twice that marriage problems are between husband and wife.
Still she hasn't stopped her drama, she can't leave m alone for 5 minutes. I feel I'm drowning and have no privacy in my own house. I can't watch my tv shows because she doesn't like them. If I want to go out she moans I'm leaving her alone and she doesn't want to go out.
There's no way she can stay at a hotel because we can't afford it. She didn't even bring a penny and she's considering staying until baby is about 6 months old.
I can't be alone with my husband, can't do anything. I cry everyday, I have to clean her mess, I can't sleep.
I dunno what to do. Any encouraging words would be appreciated!
You see, DH and I live alone as my parents live in the states while the in laws in Armenia.
MIL arrived 3 weeks ago. I wasn't happy with the fact she came 3 months before baby is due, but I just want DH to be happy.
Since she arrived, at moments she's pushing me into following her ways. Also, she vomits everyday and told me she has gastritis. She told DH I'm lying and she's all good. She keeps eating things that make her sick, and walks around the house moaning and making a big drama.
This affects my husband a lot. He's so stressed and worried to the point he discharges his frustrations on me and we stopped feeling closer.
Also, she wants me to stay close to her the 24/7. If we go somewhere if I go to the restroom, she follows me. She never leaves me alone.
I stopped sleeping since about 4 days ago. When I think about her I start hyperventilating. She asks DH personal things about our relationship and she's become too nosy.
Yesterday he found me crying because I'm tired of her drama. I told him what I think. They had a fight and she started whining that if she's bothering me, she can go away. Of course, I'm the monster.
So my husband and I were arguing in our room last night. We weren't yelling or being violent. She stepped into our room. I was so angry I stormed out of the room. She invaded MY space without knocking.
She spoke with my husband. She defended me, yet she continued to enter our room through the night to see how I was doing. I kept her kicking her out of the room and DH refuses to lock the door "just in case"
I can't sleep. I feel she's coming into our room anytime. I can't cry or she'll ask me what's going on. I've told her twice that marriage problems are between husband and wife.
Still she hasn't stopped her drama, she can't leave m alone for 5 minutes. I feel I'm drowning and have no privacy in my own house. I can't watch my tv shows because she doesn't like them. If I want to go out she moans I'm leaving her alone and she doesn't want to go out.
There's no way she can stay at a hotel because we can't afford it. She didn't even bring a penny and she's considering staying until baby is about 6 months old.
I can't be alone with my husband, can't do anything. I cry everyday, I have to clean her mess, I can't sleep.
I dunno what to do. Any encouraging words would be appreciated!
I'm thinking I would probably first try scheduling a sit down with all 3 of you and establishing MIL-free zones in the house so that she knows where she is not welcome and possibly MIL-free times of day so she knows when she is not welcome. If your husband is there and involved in the conversation she can't twist it. Then if that didn't work, I would probably threaten my hubby with staying at a friend's house until MIL was kicked out or at least followed the rules. 9 months is too long for a house guest, I would be upset too!
I think you do need a break so at least you can rest and sleep and have some personal space!!!! while she is in her room!!! go out now meet up with friend if you can and come home later you need some me space!!! 
