Desperate for some help someone

[rossyrozela]

Hiya Everyone

I lost my my babay at 20wks, when i went for my 20 weeks scan i was given the bad news ,my baby had chromosomes abnormality,we decided to terminate because the chances of survival was very low ,too many abnormality.I had my termination on the 20/10/2011 that was avery painful experiance,i had it carried out at Maristopes,

Now iam desperate for a ababy and actively trying to get pregnant my periods have not arrived yet and is it possible to get pregnant without my periods showing up after my termination?Will i be able to carry this baby given that i had a D& C and previously i had had 2 previous c-sections.
iam 39 and time is really not on my side.Anyone gone to have anormal pregnancy after chromosomes abnormality?

 

[mailcmm]

Hiya Everyone

I lost my my babay at 20wks, when i went for my 20 weeks scan i was given the bad news ,my baby had chromosomes abnormality,we decided to terminate because the chances of survival was very low ,too many abnormality.I had my termination on the 20/10/2011 that was avery painful experiance,i had it carried out at Maristopes,

Now iam desperate for a ababy and actively trying to get pregnant my periods have not arrived yet and is it possible to get pregnant without my periods showing up after my termination?Will i be able to carry this baby given that i had a D& C and previously i had had 2 previous c-sections.
iam 39 and time is really not on my side.Anyone gone to have anormal pregnancy after chromosomes abnormality?

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have alot of info for you but I do know it is possible to get pregnant before your period returns. But truly in this situation I would ask your DR what they think. There may be something that needs to be done to prevent having another problem with a baby. I really don't know anything about chromosones abnormality though so am a bad source. I wish you the best of luck though.

 

[rossyrozela]

Thank you,i too have heard the same ,i spoke to my GP last Friday and she told me to just gt on with it and whatever will be will be.She also told me that she has seen women conceive few weeks after mc.poor me,maybe iam just putting too much pressure on myself.

 

[AlwaysPraying]

My first son had severe abnormalities and we went on to have a perfectly healthy boy after that! Chromosome issues are incredibly rare that it's nearly impossible to have two in a row. Especially if you have already had two "normal" children.

I was told to wait 1 cycle before trying again, to give my uterus time to heal and to get everything functioning again. We did the opposite to you and waited over a year, I was too scared to try again, but once we did, it happened quite quickly.

My best to you.

 

[rossyrozela]

tHANKS FOR YOUR RESPONCE,AND IAM SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOSS I CAN IMMEDIATELY FEEL YOUR PAIN .NOW THE ONLY REASON WHY IAM NOT WAITING IS BECAUSE IAM NOT YOUNG,IAM IN MY LATE 30S AND TIME IS NOT WAITING FOR ME,
I SUPPOSE IT IS ALSO TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT,I WANTED THIS BABY THAT I LOST SO MUCH AND I HAD BONDED WITH HER.I FEEL PHYSICALLY READY ,MENTALLY IT IS STILL AWORKING PROGRESS AND IAM HOPING THAT I WILL EVENTUALLY GET THERE.

 

[jennijunni]

I recently lost a baby in my second trimester also. We tried again immediatley. I had one anovulatory menses, and then we got pregnant in my second cycle. Unfortunately I lost that baby too in my second trimester, but it was not genetic. And in your case, you cannot prevent something like this happening again. We have no control over chromosomes. Since you are older, I would go ahead. You are however cautioned to wait 2 cycles following a D&E, but we did not wait, though we ended up having 2 cycles anyway. I am so sorry for you loss, it is a very unique kind of pain. If you ever want to chat I am here. GL on TTC!!

 

[rossyrozela]

Thanks so much for your kind words and sorry to hear about your loss,i feel better in this group everyone here is so suppotive.

The thing with my situation is that i havent seen the AF since my termination ,before i got pregnant i was always very regular when it came to my periods,iam getting back pains and crumps as if AF is coming and had avery light bleed 2 days ago ,so i keep on thinking AF is on its way and then it stops,just out of curiosity,what did happen in your situation when you ended up loosing your babies,i too lost mine at 20wks,mind you i had to have atermination because at my 20weeks scan they discovered that the baby had so many abnormalities and chances of survival was very small after birth.IT was hard but we still think that we made the right decision.She was agal.
Also if you dont mind me asking,have they told you the reason to why it happened second time round.Iam so scared even though i want to have another baby,iam scared of histry repeating itself and also if i dont try i will never know.I have 3 children already and they were all born healthy with no complications during pregnancy.

 

[jennijunni]

In my case I went for an appointment and there was no HB. It was awful, I was 17 weeks. I decided to wait it out, and deliver at home, I delivered my baby boy into my hands, and then the bleeding started, and I had an emergency D&E, because the placenta did not detach, and I was literally bleeding to death. I then became pregnant with my 6th child, all was perfect, baby moving, then I noticed I was a bit wetter , and had some yellowish DC, and knew right away that something was wrong. and it was confirmed by US in the ER that the baby had died as well. We have no idea why it happened, there was no genetic reason, the babies were perfect. I have had 4 babies so far, all healthy, so we have no idea what happened. I am going in for tests in a few days, to do some bloodwork. My doctor thinks it was just bad luck. But just to be on the safe side, we are having some tests done. In your case, you really cannot predict genetic abnormalities, but I am assuming that this will not happen again for you, unless the genetic anamoly is hereditary. I know that when we are pregnant that I will be scared, and now I have lost my innocence if you will when it comes to pregancy. but we will persevere, and we will get through this. Again, I am sorry for your loss.

 

[rossyrozela]

sorry to hear about your pain,that was too painful to even read,but i guess you have come out stronger and ready to try again.The thing with loosing ababy is the desire to keep on trying and not to give up.When i was pregnant with the baby that i lost,i promised myself that i will not have anymore after her and fro the day that i was given tha bad news and told that i had to terminate i have had this strong feeling that i want to try again,iam in my late thirtys and iam scared ,worried but still wants to try.I worry about so many things but again with even normal pregnancy with no complications we still worry.iam desperate to try again.Good luck with the blood test and i hope you get a 2012 baby.