DH being a jerk *rant*

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My mom told me she was going to give me money for Christmas as she usually does and O told dh that I wanted to spend it on getting my hair done at a salon. I'm starting to feel self conscious about my weight gain and I haven't had a haircut since last December so I'm not really happy with my looks right now. I'm not a high maintainence person...like I said, I haven't gotten a haircut in a year, I rarely wear makeup, I've never had my nails done.

But dh flipped! He said he can't believe I'd be so selfish as to spend the money on that and that I should just do my hair at home. He said if that's really what I want to do then he would rather I spent the money on therapy!

I really hurt my feelings. I just want a reason to feel a little bit good about myself. Just needed to get that off my chest. Not sure why he's being so mean about it.
 
What did he want you to spend the money on? It's a Christmas gift, and that's not supposed to be spent on bills or groceries or whatever. If it was a gift to YOU, and not the two of you, it's your decision alone. If it was a gift to the two of you, then you need to mutually decide something FUN to spend it on, like a date or household item that you BOTH want, but if it was just for you that's your call and you can spend it on whatever you want! You aren't being selfish.
 
Meh, you deserve a little treat..your pregnant...its a hair cut. :flower: your not being unreasonable at all do what you have to do to feel good about yourself during pregnancy and dont let any one else begrudge you this! but heres an idea tell him that if there is any change left you will spend it on the world's smallest Violin...just for him.
 
He's nuts! Go get your hair done. I can't imagine what he's thinking.
 
Wow, that's pretty rude of him. It's a Christmas gift! Haircuts aren't that expensive anyway. Is he under a lot of stress at the moment? It just seems like a massive overreaction so maybe there is another reason for him flipping out about it? X
 
I say do your hair and enjoy it, he is being insensative and mean
 
That's just silly! Like the other ladies have said, it's a GIFT and you should do with it as you please. I think treating yourself to getting your hair done is a wonderful idea, especially since you haven't had it done in a year! Will you have enough left over for massage and facial as well? :)
 
I agree with kintenda, it sounds like something is bothering him :/ when he's calm (and not hungry or tired!) try and find out what's bothering him. It will make both your lives easier.

I'd say go all out and get your nails and toes done as well :D maybe buy a new tube of lipstick :) say what you want but lipstick always brightens my day ^.^
 
Sounds more selfish on his part than yours! Get your hair done! He's being soo unreasonable! :O
 
He's definitely being unreasonable, it is your Christmas gift. Would he complain if your mum just gave you a voucher for getting your haircut? Would he think it reasonable if you requested he sold his Christmas presents to use the money on something more useful?
 
Blimey - why on Earth would he react like that?! If anyone gave me money then I would see it as a ticket to get whatever I wanted. As someone else said, was he expecting you to spend it on something joint? How very rude of him.

Next time he gets money for any reason you can ask 'What are WE going to spend it on then darling?', with a big grin :D
 
:hugs:. Sorry your hubby is being so unreasonable. I only get my hair cut/done once or twice a year as well, but my hubby has no problem with it. ( he gets his cut once a month, costs $35.00 too). I agree, your hubby is probably stressed about something else and that's why he's overreacting. When you are ready to talk to him, I would let him know how hurtful and, yes selfish his comment was, then ask him what is really wrong. PS. does he get his hair cut ever? Or does he have you do it? Because if he does get it done professionally, I would tell him he is no longer allowed to go get it done, tell him to buy a razor and you`ll just shave it for him instead. It`ll save money :haha:
 
I don't know if a lot of men do this or what but that sounds like something mine would say then I come to find out that he's really upset cause he feels guilty that he isn't making enough money to give me a hair cut every month or something. I find my son is like that too - every emotion translates into anger. It's really hard not to lose it on him when I'm already wanting to kill people for no good reason (pregnancy hormones = pms on steroids) *hugs*
 
He's the one in the wrong. Its a Christmas gift for you - so money to spend on making you feel good :dohh:
 
I guess it would depend on our financial situation at the time. If we're struggling around Christmas time we use our money that we get as gifts towards bills/groceries/baby stuff.

If we needed something and DH was spending money on himself then I would probably think he was being selfish, too. :shrug:
 
Get ur hair cut! ... I have my hair cut every other month and coloured! Your oh is being selfish, it's your gift
 

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