DH won't be here for the birth......

[Breezy]

....or the first 6 months of our LO's life This is our first child, my husband is in the military and is deploying in Jan and baby is due at the end of Feb. I just can not believe they would actually deploy them knowing he is going to miss his first borns birth and half of the first year!!!! How am I ever going to go through labor without my best friend?? Not to mention the sleepless nights and learning how to be a parent??

I would love to be able to at least go home to my family to have people around and I may be able to do that at some point for a week or so after the baby is born but I need to be down here handling things with the house and I have furbabies that I can't abandon to go home!!

Arrrgh, sorry for the OT rant but I just can not believe it.

 

[jessabella]

poor thing..many prayers and know that you have a family right here too, no matter wherever you are!!

 

[Breezy]

Aw thank you so much. That means a lot!

 

[Jasiellover]

Being married to a Military man isn't easy. So sorry that they would deploy him at such an important time in both of your lives.

 

[Dizzymum]

That's just awful . I second what Jessabella said, lots of support here for you. We'll be right there with you going through the same things whenever you need to talk, xxx

 

[mrs_park]

So sorry to hear that, it must be hard. I second what the other ladies have said. xx

 

[brittanyland]

Oh girlie *hugs* My OH is deployed right now. I found out about the LO about a month after he left. Luckily he SHOULD get to take his R&R for the birth. But then he has to go back and will miss the first 3 months of LO's life. So I understand. But you will be okay! If you ever need to vent feel free to message me!

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Hey hunnie My hubby is in the Military and also deployed currently. I def know how hard it is. If you need to talk PM me. We tend to find out how strong we can be when we are left alone

 

[BreCon]

When I was deployed I knew A LOT of people who got to go home for the births of their children...they usually plan their leave dates for the due date...just thought I'd let you know that..so there is still a possability he'll be there for the birth...

 

[Breezy]

Thank you everyone! I knew I could count on you ladies for encouraging words.

 

[princess-emma]

hey hun, i no exactly how u feel im in the same position.. oh is due for deployment jan, baby due in feb and he is not home till july.....bad times....

keep ur chin up and remember were all here for u..xxxx

 

[Cheryl xx]

Like the others said everyone is here for you xx

 

[mummyzilla]

hi hun I know how you feel, my hubby due to deploy in few weeks and baby due in january, hoping he will get home asap after birth for r&r (although no guarantees) then he has to fly back out for another 3 months If you ever need to chat pm me xxx

 

[22jew]

im sorry girl im going through something similar but not quite as hard. my OH lives in England and might miss the birth cause ya never know when the baby will come then he cant move here till 6 months after birth but ill be able to see him a bit in between. I cant imagine what your going through not being able to see him for 6 months . stay strong girl !

 

[Eltjuh]

I feel really bad for you!! It makes me realise how lucky I am (not to rub it in), my hubby is in the army but luckily in the UK. Can't imagine what you're going through. I wouldn't know what to do, or how to manage without him...

Thinking of you!!!

 

[moomin_troll]

my oh was supposed to be going afghan 2 weeks after zanes due date, his boss at the time did all he could and my oh didnt have to go in the end. i kind of prepared myself for doing it all alone as zane was late n oh would of been gone by then if his boss hadnt helped up.

i thought having my son while my oh is out there would help me more then anything as id have something to concertrate on to help the time fly.

i could be preg at the mo(too early to test) but if im not we were planning on trying for baby two, to now finding out he will be going afghan in feb next yr and if i am pregnant now ile be due in may and have to do it all myself and ile be away from home in germany too.

being married to the army isnt easy and they dont half pull some evil stunts like this

 

[Eltjuh]

What regiments are your men in???

 

[wish2bmama]

Oh man, I'm sorry . I know how you feel though. My DH is in the Army and deploying in a few days. He will miss the birth and the first 6 months of the baby's life too. He will come home for RnR in March, about a month after the baby is born.

It's going to be so hard. But DH tells me that I will have something to focus on and take care of our little boy until he gets home to help and play with him. We just got an $800 laptop so we can webcam when we can.

My thoughts are with you xx

 

[Breezy]

That is exactly what I was thinking! I will be kept very very busy with my LO while he is gone so that is definitely a blessing because I would probably go even more crazy without the distraction!!!

My midwife said that she has a computer hooked up to highspeed internet with skype on it so we can video chat right afterward if he is available!!

 

[wish2bmama]

Aw yay! That's great!!

I still have to ask if I can webcam/video tape the birth for DH, but I think it should be okay.