Dior just WONT settle

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  1. Dionne

    Dionne Well-Known Member

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    i have been taking Dior for settling in periods at her new nursery. we go 1 hour a day 3 days a week. she is petrified.
    at first she would not let go of my hand after 7 hrs now of settling in i have not been able to leave her
    today they told me to leave her and let her cry it out she would soon calm down. this was fine by me. but 30mins after he screaming none stop they had to come get me. i can see they are worried.
    so next week i have to go every day for 1 hr!!!
    Dior is still real upset today and is is bed looking sad. she HATES it she is a very insecure child and i dont no why
    its really upsetting:cry:
    i asked what will happen in 2 weeks when i have my first day back at work and if she screams they said if she just wont settle i will have to collect her!!!! i cannot just leave work!!! plus ins a 30min bus ride to my office!!!
    what am i going to do. no family can have the kids.


    but on the plus side Harley loves it. i have not helped him settle in he just goes of and does his thing he is very confident
     
  2. hypnorm

    hypnorm Well-Known Member

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    :hugs: Wish i could offer advice but i can't - it must be so gut wrenching to see her like that.
     
  3. Layla

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    same as Hypnorm really, i dontknow what to sugest or say, hopefuly she will start to get used to it there.

    must be hard, sorry hun :(

    xx
     
  4. Imi

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    Has she got something like a confort blanket or a fav puzzle she can take with her to interact with one of the childminders with??

    Apart from that i really not sure ...

    Poor dior, hope it settles down for you soon ... *hugs*

    xxx
     
  5. stephlw25

    stephlw25 Well-Known Member

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    Does she get separated from Harley when shes there? e.g harley with the babies and Dior with the toddlers? if so would it help if they stayed together until she was more settled? sorry dont know what else to suggest, must be awful for you to see her in such a state.
     
  6. Dionne

    Dionne Well-Known Member

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    they are in seperate rooms
    Dior is happier in Harleys room Harley is in the baby room 6weeks - walking
    but i dout they would allow her in there.
    its nice and peacefull and calm in Harleys room where as in Diors its a bit manic with loads of toddlers!
    i dont no what to do :(
     
  7. Caroline

    Caroline Proud Mum of 4

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    could you maybe stay for longer such as a morning session with her, maybe its fear of the unknown. If u stay for longer she can see what happens wit you around. When she knows what goes on maybe she would be happier on her own
     
  8. Jo

    Jo I'm an old bag!

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    I agree with Caroline, an hour doesn't seem long enough for her to get used to it, in my experiance most children do settle in time as they get more and more used to the routine of the day.
    I don't think they will let her in to the baby room as it all goes on adult to child ratios
    Also Imi's idea was a good one of taking something special to Dior with her

    good luck hun, i know it is awful to go through xx
     
  9. Dionne

    Dionne Well-Known Member

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    i dout they will let me stay longer.
    they kepp reminding me that the 1hr settling in is free. if Dior dont settle towards the end i might have to though!

    i am thinking about getting Dior a horse toy she loves horses and has no toys of them, so it might be nice for her and she can only have it for nursery. might make her feel brave??

    i just asked her "Dior did you like nursery"
    she said "no mummy nursery gone" then she waved out the window saying "byyyyeeee"
    :dohh:

    might get kris to try the next settling in see how she behaves for him
     
  10. Cat

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    an you try asking if they will let her go in with Harley and the younger tots to start with just while she builds her confidence. If she is not used to being with other kids it might just be a bit to intimidating for her.

    Or does she have any comfort objects at home like blanket, or toys, teddy, that she can take with her just for famiarity.

    Sounds a good idea to get Kris to take her, she might just play up with you cause she knows she can. Alternatively try to take her out loads over the next couple of weeks to loads of baby groups and swimming and stuff so she gets used to being round other people and children?
     
  11. Wobbles

    Wobbles BnB Co-Founder ~ Retired

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    Aww poor wee woman.

    I hope she settles in with the other kids soon :hugs:

    Could you ask her if there was anything that would make her smile/feel better when Mummy wasn't there... Maybe if it's her suggestion she will feel comforted?
     
  12. weestar21

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    Dionne i can truely sympathise with you :hugs: I went through this with Adele when she was just over 2 years old. I tried to go back to work in maccy d's and had her in a private nursery, we did the same for 3 weeks stayed for a bit and let her play and she was fine. But as soon as the first day came when we had to leave her she screamed so much she would make herself sick and not settle at all. They told us just to leave her cry but it got to the stage as soon as i got off the bus she would start screaming and not let go of me as soona s we got into the nursery :cry: We tried for 6 months but every day i was getting called away from work to go get her so we ended up taking her out as it wasnt good for her getting so upset.

    I know their is no way you just cant go back to work but only thing i can suggest is give it a go she might settle in after next week but if she doesnt then all i can suggest is trying a different nursery if its possible

    i really hope she settles soon as i know its heartbraking seeing them so upset :hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  13. Jo

    Jo I'm an old bag!

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    Was she there today hun?
    how did you get on??
     
  14. Tam

    Tam Mum of 2 - PG with No.3

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    How is she getting on now Dionne? Poor little thing, there is nothing worse than when they hate nursery/school, I had it for years with Jade! :hugs: x
     
  15. pinkish_angel

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    aw Dionne, bet its awful. Keep us posted. hope she settles soon xxx
     
  16. Tezzy

    Tezzy Mum of 2 TTCAL

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    hope she settles down soon xxx
     
  17. Lauz_1601

    Lauz_1601 Well-Known Member

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    not seen u around miuch Dionne ? how is Dior now ?
     

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