1eighty
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found out today we are definitely and i can't help but be sad. there is a strong chance that this is our last pregnancy, as DH has had a difficult time dealing with me and my mental illness whilst TTC with just one small child in the house.
i'm glad he's healthy, everything looks good and all... but i can't connect with him at all (yet? i hope yet). i know that it will come and that i'll love him as much as our cute lil mischief bundle... but i'll be grieving for the girl we've not had, and probably for the rest of my life.
boys are very much the predominant sex in DH's family. he is one of 4 boys, and our son is one of four boy cousins - there is only one female cousin. the only way we'll get a girl is through IVF - we tried shettles with DS, DTD 4 days prior to Ov... this time we didn't even bother, i just knew what the result would be and i knew i'd just hate myself more if we had again actively tried for a girl and instead been gifted a boy.
the shitty thing is, my BIL and his wife would literally kill for this beautiful little boy. they can't have kids of their own. that is what tears at me whenever i feel this selfish twinge of sadness over the fact we are having a second son.
i looked at my son in the shopping trolley at the supermarket today and just burst into tears at the thought of never having a little girl of my own.
i'm glad he's healthy, everything looks good and all... but i can't connect with him at all (yet? i hope yet). i know that it will come and that i'll love him as much as our cute lil mischief bundle... but i'll be grieving for the girl we've not had, and probably for the rest of my life.
boys are very much the predominant sex in DH's family. he is one of 4 boys, and our son is one of four boy cousins - there is only one female cousin. the only way we'll get a girl is through IVF - we tried shettles with DS, DTD 4 days prior to Ov... this time we didn't even bother, i just knew what the result would be and i knew i'd just hate myself more if we had again actively tried for a girl and instead been gifted a boy.
the shitty thing is, my BIL and his wife would literally kill for this beautiful little boy. they can't have kids of their own. that is what tears at me whenever i feel this selfish twinge of sadness over the fact we are having a second son.
i looked at my son in the shopping trolley at the supermarket today and just burst into tears at the thought of never having a little girl of my own.