My band starts back at rehersals tomorrow, and there is a couple at band (Chris and Ann )who have been together for 10yrs, they got engaged last year and bought a house. Well just 3 days before christmas, one of my friends phones me to say that Chris had dumped her and had been having an affair for approx 6 months. Then on christmas eve i spoke to Ann and found out that Chris had had her arrested for ABH, Ann had gone round to collect things to keep her going over christmas, and Chris was 'in her face' telling her how crap in bed she was and how good his new girl was and how beatiful she was, better than she could ever be, Ann has bruises on her arms where he was holding her so tight, so she kicked him in the balls to get him off her, and the git called the police and had her arrested, so she now has a criminal record. I mean what a tosser, for a bloke to call the police when its him. He turned up at our christmas eve gig, and even had the nerve to ask Ann if she was going to midnight mass with him, as his hew girl was coming too! I'm surprised he had the nerve to turn up! but i also feel bad for another member of the band (john), as its hitting on raw nerves with him as he got married and his wife left him after 3 months she had been having an affair starting well before they got married, so its all hit on us. Ann has indicated that Chris has been violent before, this guy is so up him self, and i could never understand what she saw in him but hey everyone has someone. I'm not looking forward to going back to band, because john and his parents now think nothing of Chris coz of what he has done to Ann but also because they know how she feels becuase of what happened to John!! Ann tried to explain to the police that Chris had been abusiove but they werent interested becuase he had called the police first. The question is am i civil to him or just ignore him and get on with it. Personally i think he should be chucked out of the band. Sorry about the long post - but i really feel for every one involved and for those whose feelings have been stirred up again.