Do I have a right?..

[xAmiixLouisex]

FOB is not involved, what so ever. I'm not sure if he'll ever come round but I'm not that bothered for now. If he comes round then I'll be happy. If not, whatever.

But, I was thinking.. If he does change his mind and want to see the child. I don't want my child being at his moms (he lives with his mom). I don't like his mom. Due to the fact she tried very hard to talk me into abortion and told me I'm ruining my life and that I'm being selfish and unfair by keeping the baby. I'm not sure I can ever forgive her for that because, she was just so damn cold tbh. But, that's not really the reason.. FOB is still young an parties a lot. He smokes weed and his mom's a bit of a pushover. On weekends he has little get togethers at home after a night out. Like, there will be say 10-12 people getting drunk, smoking weed, until early hours of the morning. And if the agreement was say weekends, I don't want my child round this. Yeah maybe he'd have a quiet night in. But, he's young an irresponsible. So, maybe he wouldn't. I'm just wondering, do I have an actual right to say I only want him to have my child at MY house? Sorry if I sound selfish. I just don't want to risk my little one being around that sort of stuff.

 

[Laura2919]

You can have supervised visits. They wouldnt expect you to let your newborn child go to stay somewhere else.

If he does want to be involved then tell him he can come and see baby at yours

 

[Mally01]

I highly recommend that you Do not let your child stay at anyones house where drugs or heavy drinking is involved, ever. It's just asking for trouble, especially if the child is very young and needs constant care / feeding schedule etc. I would spell it out to him nicely and just say calmly - no drugs/weed = your child can stay over with you and if he refuses and demands that his kid stays with him and his Mum then you will definitely have to take it further and trust me you would win as they would discover one way or another that he is smoking weed regularly. No matter how young and irresponsible he is, he will know this to be fact. It's up to him to realise that he must take responsibility for fatherhood and as they say - he can't have his cake and eat it. He can't expect to be a father on his terms without taking the childs welfare into consideration.