do you already have two kids?

[vkj73]

i posted something similar a month or so ago.
i'm seeking the wise advice from mamas who have already brought
a second baby into the world.

our dd is 4.5 (she'll be close to 5 when baby arrives).

she and i are very close, and i'm wondering (and am worried) how things will change for her, our relationship, etc when baby comes. it is my understanding that there can be guilt/stress when mama's attention is no longer focused on one.

i'd love to hear about your experience. i know there will be challenges, but i'm hoping to also hear some stories of unmeasurable greatness and love.

thanks in advance

 

[george83]

My lo was 2 1/2 when we had ds2 and he totally loved him. He came to the hospital to meet him and was giving him cuddles then when we introduced his cousins to the baby my oldest came telling them to "look don't touch". I have to say that as they've got older (ds2 is 1 next week) ds1 has got more jealous but only as much as I would have expected. Theyve just got to the stage where they can play together which is gorgeous and if my youngest is upset ds1 tries to comfort him using the cutest baby voice. I'm not sure if it will be the same with a bigger age gap though

 

[Amy2701]

Mine are a lot closer in age (DD was only 13 months old when DS was born), but my daughter and I really do have the closest relationship. She is a total mummy's girl, and is always kissing and cuddling me and telling me she's missed me so much after just 4 hours at playgroup.

My son is much more of a daddy's boy, and he was our second child. He still loves his mummy cuddles though. Neither of my kids have missed out on quality one on one time with me, and I don't feel like we could be any closer.

 

[MileyMamma]

I had my second daughter when Thea was 6, bit if a gap and she was a little jealous but so so in love and protective and a great help, Thea's a total mummy's girl we did everything together. I make sure I make time for just us to do stuff and she really enjoys our time together x

 

[babylove x]

I was worried similarly, however was completely shocked, and very relieved, to find that dd absolutely ADORED her little brother. She gave us permission to bring him home from the hospital and says "why don't you try to make him feel better" whenever he fusses.

My ds was born 9/11 and my dd's third birthday was 9/30, 3 years apart, so I'd imagine that your daughter will have an even better understanding with the age gap at hand!!

 

[SoBlessedMama]

We just had baby #2 (he's 11 weeks now), and DS#1 is 4.5, years, so the age gap is very similar to yours. I was worried about all the same things you mentioned. I have been SO pleasantly surprised!!!! DS#1 completely loves being a big brother. He adjusted so quickly, and is actually a tremendous helper. Of course he's had a few jealous moments when I was holding baby and he wanted to play, etc. But it has been 99.999% a wonderful experience seeing them interact together. Of course it is a big adjustment. Just don't be too hard on yourself, and shower both of them with as much love as you can each day. You'll do great! : )

 

[vkj73]

thanks for the advice and words of encouragement mamas.
i really appreciate it.

our dd is very excited about being a big sister.

i definitely want to make sure she and i have one-on-one time to maintain our bond. i also want to remember to not be hard on myself during the major adjustment.

thanks again