Such totally normal feelings. The wife of one of DH's friend's keeps trying to give me advice for when we start trying (I haven't shared that we are), and it's driving me nuts. It took them 1 month the first time, and she keeps talking about how hard it was since it took them 3 months the second time. She's super sweet and she means well, but sometimes I just want to scream, "If 2 BFNs was hard for you, think about those out there who have been trying for over a year!" We're on cycle 6 now, and my heart goes out to everyone who has been at this longer or through worse. I may be in that boat one day, and that's ok...we don't get to choose our paths on this journey.
My two best friends have been through sooo much, so I think I get to see a wide spectrum. One lost her first to trisomy. She carried it full term, but it was stillborn. Since then she had a MC and was diagnosed with PCOS. They've taken a long break and are now back to ttc. The other had to come off of some medications before she could even try. It took her 2 years and 3 hospitalizations, but she did it. Her little boy is beautiful and healthy, and I just love him to pieces.
I think we have to remember that we're probably only going to hear the tougher stories or even if it took someone longer to conceive from those closest to us, so we're going to hear a lot more of the happy easy stories. It's not easy opening up, but it's super fun to joke around about your amazing fertility when it takes just 1 month. Unfortunately, that can make us feel like we're the only ones struggling, which is why I love this forum. We're all in different stages and on different paths, but we can come together here and feel safe sharing our stories. You see everything from it taking just a few months to some who have been trying for 10+ years. No matter where we are on our paths we all need and deserve some support (and a good cry now again).
All the best to you!
