Do you ever feel like

[readyformore]

you're picking up the slack from those statistics?

You know, the ones that say 75% of women (or whatever #) conceive in the first year. And you obviously haven't conceived in that time. You know oddles of women that have conceived prior to 6 months. So............ does it feel like you're just picking up the slack? Or, if statistically, 1 or 2 women out of 10 (that are ttc) gets a bfp, you know you're out. That's how I feel.

I know that when someone gets pregnant, it's not like they cut in line in front of me, but I feel like I just got farther away from my bfp.

It's a really bizarre irrational thought, but I figured you ladies would know what I'm talking about (because noone else seems to understand).

 

[urchin]

Lol yeah, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. Although of course I know logically that someone else announcing their pregnancy has no effect whatsoever on my chances of success, there is a little corner of my brain always tries to do the maths!

So, if 40% of women get pregnant during each cycle of IVF at my clinic - each woman who gets a BFP uses up one of those 40 slots, making it more likely that I will get one of the 60!

And YES I know probability doesn't work like that!

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi
i know exactly what you mean, i was in czech rep after a transfer last yr and there were 4 of us in the room after tx, i looked around and thought hmmmm according to stats 2 of us will get our babys and 2 will not. thats exactly how it turned out, as well, of course i was in the failure side as i always seem to be, i sometimes find myself looking around my clinic waitiing room thinking the same thing and wondering when it will be eventually my turn to be on the successful side of the stats.
rosebud

 

[twinkle1975]

Yep - I totally understand where you're coming from - this TTC business makes us crazy!!

 

[wifey29]

Totally, if there is even a teeny percentage that something will go wrong or not work I will be in it! Even with my back surgery I was in the 1% who have it fail! Sucks really and I keep thinking that at some point I'll make it into the majority of something!

 

[Armywife84]

Guilty as charged.

I never imagined that I would face infertility..but of course I would fall into the 25% women who don't conceive in a year. Then again for the statistic of infertile couples. It's like when everyone else gets their BFP you keep on being shoved in the smaller unfortunate percentile. Although, I do believe their infertile couples statistic is off(I believe it was rather low), they need to conduct another study!

 

[Sophe]

Yes me too, i've felt it too! I feel like I am the one out of my cirlcle of friends.. there has to be one and it seems to be! so when they get a BFP it confirms its no them, so even more likey to me... I knows its mad!

 

[Bunnylicious]

my doc gave worse statistic

"90% conceived within a year... and unfortunately you're not one of them"

 

[jeoestreich]

Yep. Who knew that TTC was so stressful. Everyone else makes it look so easy. Ugh...it just sucks. I want my baby already.

 

[Aphrodite]

my doc gave worse statistic

"90% conceived within a year... and unfortunately you're not one of them"

thats awful But I used to do this too. After 18 months and not pregnant I read the statistic that 98% of women who try should be pregnant within 18 months and I thought,' Am I really the 2%??' and worried even more