the babys dad wants to get back together but he says he wants to take it slow
but i feel like i am being used,
he doesnt want to move back in with me,
he doesnt kiss me goodbye, instead he taps my head or chin,
i dont fell like he is treating me like a girlfreind,
and im very sure that he is still chatting to other women online,
i really dont know if me and him getting back together is a good idea,
i am having a baby i dont need the hassle and neither does my baby.
i really dont think i want to be with him how he is, but i love him, so its hard
HE wants to take it slow? How about you? You've got a lot going on right now - a new life to prepare for and that LO needs a happy and emotionally stable Mummy. He is no longer the most important person in your life your LO is, if he wants to make it work - he needs to be bending over backwards to fit himself into your and your LO's routines and not the other way around.
So if you decide to let him back into your life it needs to be on your terms not his.
Besides how do you know he's there for you, to support and love you, and not just because he thinks it is what is expected of him as the father? If he came back would you always be wondering if he stayed for you or the baby?
It's always difficult when feelings are involved, particularly when we can still see the person we feel in love with in there somewhere. Whatever you decide make sure it's you calling the shots. Don't be a doormat, you are about to be the mother - take strength from that. You managed without him when you spilt up you can manage again.
And don't forget (hard as it might seem) he can be there and be a Dad without actually being with you.
If you do decide that now is not the time to be getting back together again, leave the door open, and you never know later on when things have setttled down there might be a way forward for you both.
Good luck with whatever you decide, you seem to already know.
x
ps- if you do decide to not get emotionally involved right now, may I also suggest changing your AV (assuming it's him) so you aren't constantly reminded of him?