Does Anyone Else Drive Themselves Crazy...?

[FAR]

Hi Everyone!

I'm not sure when me and OH will be able to TTC, I would LOVE to start a family soon, but I'm thinking not for a few years at least.

I am currently on the mini pill, and have never missed one, so I know that I'm not pregnant...and yet, every time I'm ill [sick, tired, etc] for a few days in a row, I start to drive myself crazy thinking that theres a chance these symptoms could be pregnancy related!!

Half my brain tries to ignore it, and the other half is thinking 'well, it is like 1% possible or something...'

Please tell me I'm not the only one who does this?!

 

[LovemyBubx]

I used to do this before i got pregnant with my LO i used to look for signs, i made everything baby related 'i look a bit bloated today..hmm wonder if im pregnant'

im sure there are plenty of women out there who are like this, but when i was actually pregnant with my LO i felt completly different (not sure if its the same for everyone) but i just knew that i had a baby inside me, its hard to explain, but i hope you get these feelings when you are ready to feel them

 

[Mrs Eleflump]

I do this all the time...me and hubby are using NFP for contraception, we're still quite new at it (3 cycles), so at every little thing my brain says 'PREGNANT!' FOr instance at the moment I'm 10dpo, I've had 4 days of slight spotting, my boobs are killing me, and I had two pretty high temps a few days ago. I can explain the temps (though not the spotting or the boobs, they've been hurting since before ov), but my brain puts two and two together and comes up with five...

I think it's natural when you want something to happen to imagine that it is...either that or we're all crazy! Welcome to the broody hens' club that is the WTT board!

 

[misshydra]

I do this all the time! I had a MC while using the mirena IUD (yes, it was in place) and I never suspected a thing. I continued to use the mirena for 2 more years and after that every little thing - must be pregnant! I think I spent a fortune in pregnancy tests, always secretly hoping they would be positive. Now that I'm off BC I am doing the same thing. I must drive the OH crazy (because I certainly drive myself crazy too!). Ahhh I can't wait to TTC in earnest.

 

[angiepie]

Nope. I do this all the time. If my period is late [which can happen randomly as I have pcos] I am secretly wishing... Occasionally we use the pull out method and I hope, hope, hope, OH pulls out too late or that some miracle will happen. It can be quite distressing to experience both the pleasure of sex and immediately following that, the disappointment and devastation of 'wasting' the sperm. I can laugh about it now, coz I know we can't afford a kid, but at the time when I'm in my primitive brain, it's not funny at all.

Now I just made myself sad! Time to cheer up!

 

[hopscotch]

yup i'm doing it right now! and because ive just had a major low in my life right now and all i want is my baby back, but i know it's all in my head! but going to test anyway

 

[AngelofTroy]

I do this ALL the time! I was worse when I was on the pill actually, now that we're using condoms again I guess I feel like we'd know if contraception had failed. I too feel like we're 'wasting sperm' when I see it in the condom after sex (sorry TMI!) and being WTT is definitely having a negative effect on my libido. I can't get that into sex anymore knowing it's not leading anywhere. I know when we're TTC I'll be jumping him at every opportunity, as when we've occasionally used the pull out method I've been so into it!

 

[Hs1987]

I do this all the time. Even when I no there is no chance at all. Dread to think how much money I've wasted on pregnancy tests. Lol

 

[sarahh]

Yeah I do this too, pretty much every month I think maybe I am this month drives me crazy.

 

[Sam 121]

Hiya - I am like this aswell! Its like I convince myself that I AM pregnant even though there is no definate proof then get disappointed when my period comes!

Hi Everyone!

I'm not sure when me and OH will be able to TTC, I would LOVE to start a family soon, but I'm thinking not for a few years at least.

I am currently on the mini pill, and have never missed one, so I know that I'm not pregnant...and yet, every time I'm ill [sick, tired, etc] for a few days in a row, I start to drive myself crazy thinking that theres a chance these symptoms could be pregnancy related!!

Half my brain tries to ignore it, and the other half is thinking 'well, it is like 1% possible or something...'

Please tell me I'm not the only one who does this?!

 

[Sam 121]

Hi Angelof Troy- I feel the same about wasting sperm lol,and I can relate to the 'not getting into sex anymore as its not leading anywhere' Dont think OH feels the same though !?

I do this ALL the time! I was worse when I was on the pill actually, now that we're using condoms again I guess I feel like we'd know if contraception had failed. I too feel like we're 'wasting sperm' when I see it in the condom after sex (sorry TMI!) and being WTT is definitely having a negative effect on my libido. I can't get that into sex anymore knowing it's not leading anywhere. I know when we're TTC I'll be jumping him at every opportunity, as when we've occasionally used the pull out method I've been so into it!

 

[NurseSooz]

Beautifully put Sam! I also get angry that I'm still taking the pill as I think 'what if I can't conceive anyway....what if it takes me months once I've come off it'....I feel bitter every time I take one! I'll be way more happy when I know the sperm have a chance of performing their role! My OH keeps saying 'practice is good'. SHYEAH right!

 

[I Love Lucy]

You are not the only one!! I actually had this happen last month when my body was not acting right. I actually had OH go buy me pregnancy tests to be sure because waiting for AF was agonizing. I've had this happen one more time this year when I was on another BC. Granted, I haven't found a BC that works well with my body so I think I'm more aware of things that are off. I'll be headed back to my doctor to change off this pill since I know symptoms are from that and not because of a baby.

 

[FAR]

I think in about a year I've only managed to convince myself quite enough to buy two pregnancy tests. But if I didn't live in such a small town [where the chances of bumping into someone I know whilst buying one is very high], and if they weren't as expensive, I'd probably be buying them all the time!

I try not to let myself think about it, and try to tell myself that I'm ill for other reasons, but I still get very disappointed when I know for sure that I'm not.

Ah, I just sometimes wish I could fast forward to the time where we are ready to start a family.

 

[Amalee]

Hiya - I am like this aswell! Its like I convince myself that I AM pregnant even though there is no definate proof then get disappointed when my period comes!

Same here. It's crazy, I know I will be much more able to raise a child in a year or two, and I am definitely NOT trying, but I still get happy butterflies every time my period is late. And I know I'm being crazy as I do it, but I start thinking about how I'll tell my family, how I will adjust my educational plans, and where I can start skimping to save money. I am a lunatic!

 

[Chai_w]

Yes, do this all the time! up to the split second before i take the test, then i'm like it's going to be negative, don't worry. I think that when it does happen for me i'll likely have some of the symptoms i haven't had, like morning sickness and such. but you never know one of these times it will be positive

 

[FAR]

Thank you for the replies everyone. It really does help to know that I'm not the only one who does this.

I can't really talk to my friends about it as they aren't at all in the same place as me - they are either no way near to thinking about babies, or they already have them [so when they think they are pregnant, or wish they were, then they usually are hehe].

And I do speak to OH about it, but, y'know, it is quite hard for him to understand. He does try to understand though, bless him!!

 

[Smile181c]

Definately aren't the only one! Every tiny sign my brain goes into overdrive and then it's all I can think about until AF arrives and disappoints me again

I can relate to sex drive being practically non existent! I don't conciously think 'what's the point' but after reading this it makes a lot of sense! I just can't get into it any more! Which makes DF sad cause it means we don't really have a lot of sex any more! When I talk about babies at home now, he always says 'come on lets make one then' just so he can get some sex I feel bad for the poor bloke lol xx

 

[NurseSooz]

It's great to know I'm not alone either. My OH was talking last night saying "it would be great if you were pregnant....but not yet". I nearly screamed with frustration! All that wasted sperm!

 

[Smile181c]

The sayings "one day" or "not yet" drive me frikking insane!

When is "one day"?? Hmm??

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