DH & I were one of the ones some hate that "fell" pregnant the very first month of no birth control..we didnt chart or anything like that..just had sex whenever we please and enjoyed it..and thought "if it happens it happens!!". Honestly I thought it would never happen, because I too have dealt with an eating disorder (anorexia) and it really screwed up my cycle. So when I got my flaming BFP on my first day of missed period I was SHOCKED yet AMAZINGLY HAPPY. Friends say I was beaming from ear to ear, but I did hate to think this though some of them were a bit jealous because they had been trying for years. But it wasn't my fault I had wonder egg and he had super sperm so I didnt really get it...yeah yeah I know..
Sadly it ended in MC at 7 weeks
THAT is when I started hating the world so to speak. I have a friend, who I am no longer friends with, that seriously had a very underweight baby due to her not giving a damn, smoked pot *with* the baby in the room, smoked cigs *with* the baby in the car, f*cked men over the babies crib *with* the baby in it, took the baby *with* her to raging parties when she couldnt find a sitter, ect..ALL while bragging about it all!!!! she thought she was awesome for whatever reason. and thought she was a good mom???!! even though she was my friend this was too much, and I couldnt see this beautiful baby girl being raised like this. Another friend and I got proof of most of this things and turned her in but they didnt take her away. The mother's father is a sheriff with tons of money so who know..maybe paid someone off??
OH AND DID I FORGET TO MENTION DRIVES DRUNK WITH THE BABY IN THE CAR ALL THE TIME?!! One time even got pulled over while doing this and the stupid cops let her go because she was "hot"!!!!!!!!!!
*NOW* I heard that she wants to "finally" give her up for adoption at 2 years old because she learned she may be autistic and doesnt want to be a mother of a child with special needs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So yes, people like THAT make me very angry and sick, especially when I have a beautiful baby up in heaven that I would have loved and cared for with all my heart, even if he had special needs!
But, I do not mind when people have an "accident" and they actually own up to it and are wonderful parents...even ones who are "not prepared with no jobs". I know plenty of women on welfare that make excellent mothers =)
SORRY FOR THE RANT JUST HAD TO GET THAT OFF MY CHEST!!!
Baby dust to all and don't let stupid people get you too down..I know its hard!!