Does anyone else feel like this?

[cerena]

95% of the time desperately wanting a baby and to be pregnant then the occasional off-day when you think 'what the hell am I doing! Finances are not great, career is not where I want it to be, current circumstances are not ideal, there's still loads of things I want to do' blah blah

Or is it normal to feel like that? Or is it worse to wait till you think everything is perfect then finding that you have trouble conceiving or other unforeseen problems then regret not TTC when you wanted?

Sometimes I just feel so confused as to what I want and how I feel..........

 

[leopardprint]

I think everyone feels like that, no matter how close to perfect their situation is.

People always say that there's no perfect time to have a baby.

I remember taking a pregnancy test when I was 18/19 and wishing that it came up negative, I remember thinking that it would ruin my life if it was positive and all the things I thought I would miss out on, now when I take a test, I feel a horrible feeling of loss when it comes up negative and I realise its the thing I want more than any job or any holiday etc.

I'm maybe rambling on a bit here...

I just know that when I can think of one single reason not to have a baby, I can also think of a thousand more to have a baby.

xxx

 

[glowingjo]

I'm 34 and I'm still not sure I'm grown up enough to be a Mum! Will I really be able to cope? Can we afford it? We live in UK but I'm from Oz, and I think it goes enough to say that we see my family almost as often as DH's family! (and he's an english boy!).



It's perfectly normal to worry and wonder

 

[navywife04]

I have the same feelings! Everyday I think about whether or not were really ready to be tied down, without the freedom we have now. But then on the other hand we want a baby so bad!

 

[K123]

Am sure when I finally see that my celebrations will occasionally be balanced by panic about work, the complete change to our life, the thought of childbirth etc. But I know that the reasons for wanting a baby are more plentiful and more important - and I'll happily accept that until our children have left school or Uni and got jobs of their own we'll never have spare money again!

 

[CAustin]

I sometimes feel the exact same way! Me and DH want a baby so bad, and we are doing everything we can to make that happen. I think all the time about little baby things, how great it will be to have a little one...names..ect. Then sometimes I think to myself, maybe we should wait a bit...are we really ready? Can we afford this? I think its only human to imagine the good and the bad...all i know is we are ready...scared or not scared...we are doing it.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I felt like that a bit the first time as I supose there's never a perfect situation to bring a baby into, now we are just overly desperate to have a baby.xxx

 

[alicea]

cerena- i have been TTC since June 2010 and up until this month i have had no doubts wat so ever! but this month i keep thinking is it the right decision as i am taking a year outta uni (for other reasons) and am due to start in Sept 2011 and if i got preg now i might not be able to go bk. I know i am 21,nearly 22 and people will think i have plenty of time but i am beginning to think having a baby means more to me than my future career as a nurse. I can always go bk to uni, but i may run outta time to have a baby once i qualify. So i am just trying to relax and leave it to fate if it happens then i will deal with it and manage if not then i will have to just wait til i qualify from uni

good luck and i hope u get what u want xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Tattoo]

I have those feelings too, I'm sure we all do. It's a huge, life-changing thing, the biggest thing any of us will ever do with our lives, so of course it's slightly terrifying!

 

[eightambliss]

I feel the same way too-nothing ever seems right or good enough even when you've accomplished a lot. I've made a turning point in my life recently and kind of said "you know what, I am going to give 100% to everything I do and make the best out of whatever comes my way". But I really feel that I don't want to wait anymore. My life is not perfect (for example, I rent an apartment rather than owning a home) but I need to do what I feel is right.

 

[worrying]

I feel the same way! I think any big life changing decision like this is going to come with a little anxiety and conflict. I wish I could offer some advice on this one...