Does anyone else over analyze every thing they do?

[Eziana]

Does anyone else over analyze everything they've done during the last month whenever they get AF or a BFN? I'm 37 (as of 12/28) and DH and I are currently on cycle 6 of TTC. I'm relatively healthy, regular cycle (25 to 26 days), a little overweight and I have an underactive thyroid which requires me to take a thyroid pill every day. Other than that, I'm pretty healthy.

Every month when AF arrives, part of me immediately thinks it's something I did or didn't do, maybe I shouldn't have drank cold water after ovulation, maybe I should've had more pineapple, etc. For example I have around two or three servings of alcohol a week including the two week wait (mostly wine). I do this because I enjoy it and I know that once I get my BFP, I won't be having any for awhile, and because I've read so many places that light or moderate drinking during TTC is okay. I've also heard, though, that the CDC recommends no drinking at all while TTC. So then I think, well, gosh maybe I should quit it all together! But then I want to enjoy it while I can and honestly, I don't have much of it anyway. I wish I could just be one of those chill women who says "Oh, it'll happen when it happens." but that's hard for me. I mean even my doctor said it takes an average of a year to get pregnant!

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying? Does anyone have any tips for how I can just chill and not worry so much about it? This has really been stressing me out!

 

[mnelson815]

Sorry to be a debbie downer over here, but I agree that I would be concerned if I were you as well. The typical one year mark for TTC applies usually to those under 35 or without diagnosed issues (eg. anovulatory cycles). If you are over 35 or if you know you have pre-exisiting conditions, it is recommended to only try for 6 months of your own before seeking help.
So maybe if you are interested, going to seek some help in the matter to determine if everything is functioning well would put your mind at ease? I had read quite a few studies that suggest even very minimal drinking can impact your ability to conceive. I struggle with this as well because I love wine! So i try to limit it to only special occasions or something like that and try to avoid it most of the other times. Sorry I dont have any more of a "relaxed, it will happen" approach to this post, but like you, I second guess everything as well. And in all honesty, if I can help anything in anyway, I am getting to the point where I definitely want to do that.

Just something to think about I guess?

 

[Stormykins]

Does anyone else over analyze everything they've done during the last month whenever they get AF or a BFN? I'm 37 (as of 12/28) and DH and I are currently on cycle 6 of TTC. I'm relatively healthy, regular cycle (25 to 26 days), a little overweight and I have an underactive thyroid which requires me to take a thyroid pill every day. Other than that, I'm pretty healthy.

Every month when AF arrives, part of me immediately thinks it's something I did or didn't do, maybe I shouldn't have drank cold water after ovulation, maybe I should've had more pineapple, etc. For example I have around two or three servings of alcohol a week including the two week wait (mostly wine). I do this because I enjoy it and I know that once I get my BFP, I won't be having any for awhile, and because I've read so many places that light or moderate drinking during TTC is okay. I've also heard, though, that the CDC recommends no drinking at all while TTC. So then I think, well, gosh maybe I should quit it all together! But then I want to enjoy it while I can and honestly, I don't have much of it anyway. I wish I could just be one of those chill women who says "Oh, it'll happen when it happens." but that's hard for me. I mean even my doctor said it takes an average of a year to get pregnant!

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying? Does anyone have any tips for how I can just chill and not worry so much about it? This has really been stressing me out!

Yep I am the same about overanalyzing every little thing. I seriously drive myself (and sometimes my DH haha) crazy. Was that water too cold? Should I have slept with socks on to keep my feet warm? Was the shower too hot? Should I have taken more vitamins. It's exhausting.

Do you chart at all? Your cycle is a bit shorter than average so I'd maybe look into if your luteal phase is long enough. I think the average length of time to conceive is actually more like 4-6 months, but it can also be normal to take up to a year. But being that you are over 35 you don't have to wait the full year of trying before seeing a fertility specialist. Not that you necessarily need it! But if it were me I'd take any help I could get "just incase"