Does anyone want visitors after delivery?

[Sew_Sweet]

Well it depends what time of day I deliver and how I feel afterwards. I'll want several hours at least to rest if not more - before we have any visitors. I will want my husband to go get my daughter from whichever grandma she was staying with before anyone else comes. But I will be anxious for people to visit. Like another said - I'd rather have them visit me in the hospital than later at home. I don't want anyone in the waiting room though - or anyone but my husband in the delivery room.

 

[Jennifurball]

I am not sure really. I don't know how I will feel after the labour, I may want to hide away or I may want the world to see my precious bundle.

What I don't want is constant visiting. My SIL just had a baby on Monday and my in laws have visited 3 times since! I don't want that at all but obviously I understand it is exciting for family. I don't mind my family coming though.

Think it is an in law thing really.

 

[MommaCC]

I was not allowed visitors with Joshua because I had a very traumatic birth I was in hospital for one night after delivery and when I got home the influx of people was completely overwhelming. So if I can have people visit the hospital a couple at a time that will be great I will then be placing a no visitors zone on our home for the first three days. So we can settle onto a routine and bond with the baby. We also have put little baby boy jOshua to consider him bonding and settling into being a big brother xxx

 

[Reno]

As long as the birth is straight forward, I'd like my mum and MIL to come at the soonest visiting time after the birth! Other than that I want to get home and freshen up! we'll be planning out a timetable for visitors when we get home! Lol! We love entertaining at the house so that suits us better! I hate crowds, so it would be lovely to have people come up in twos or threes so everyone gets a cuddle and the baby doesn't feel overwhelmed! I think it's lovely to open the door to visitors who want to welcome the baby in to the world! Luckily we havent any overbearing friends or family who would turn up uninvited! Lol!

 

[kristen77]

Nope! I don't plan on being admitted like last time, so there really wasn't an opportunity for anyone to cone - especially as we didn't tell them I was in labour until after our son was born & they're a couple of hrs away. We'll see how things go as to when people come and visit us as someone will need to be looking after my son this time round so we might need someone on the day - which makes me a bit sad as I really want it just to be me, my OH, my son & no2 for the first 24-48 hrs xx

 

[Debbie82]

For delivery just me and DH - I don't even think I could have anyone else if I wanted anyway

However, providing birth isn't traumatic I really want my friends and familyto visit during the first available visiting slot. I think I would be hurt if I didn't have an influx of visitors + I'm real family person so couldn't bare not to see them after such a momentous occasion.

Initially when I found out I was pregnant there was a chance my dad would be on holiday in China when I gave birth and the thought him not seeing my babies from day 1 devastated me - thankfully my dates got moved forward in the end.

EAch to their own I say

 

[addie140910]

Nope! I don't plan on being admitted like last time, so there really wasn't an opportunity for anyone to cone - especially as we didn't tell them I was in labour until after our son was born & they're a couple of hrs away. We'll see how things go as to when people come and visit us as someone will need to be looking after my son this time round so we might need someone on the day - which makes me a bit sad as I really want it just to be me, my OH, my son & no2 for the first 24-48 hrs xx

I thought they always admitted people to the hospital for a couple days to a week after delivery? I would love to be able to go home right afterwords.

 

[tessiekins]

Eeeh I definitely want lots of visitors.. even though I'll probably look like utter crap haha, I'll wanna show off our beautiful baby, I'll probably be asking staff in the corridors too! xxx

 

[harrybaby]

I know alot of people feel like that they dont want visitors, I can understand why - but having gone through the experience already - I can tell you that all those feelings go completley out the window. I completley forgot about visitors all together - it was such a long ordeal, and I was just so glad to see some support - with balloons and smiley fresh faces. They were all really keen to check I was ok and to welcome the baby.

 

[Cheshirista]

I wrote one of those threads about family wanting to be there etc, but actually I do really like both sides of my family and it's not my aim to exclude them or anything. Just that this is my first and I have no idea how I'm going to feel 1/2/4 hours after birth, the next day, or whatever.

So that's why I'm making a rule that no one's to come until I say so. It might be straight after, it might be two days later. I just don't know.

As I say, I love them to bits and they really help me out all the time, and I've no intention of keeping them away, I just want to make sure that I have bonding time with my baby and a chance to rest and recover before I get descended upon.

 

[Cheshirista]

Nope! I don't plan on being admitted like last time, so there really wasn't an opportunity for anyone to cone - especially as we didn't tell them I was in labour until after our son was born & they're a couple of hrs away. We'll see how things go as to when people come and visit us as someone will need to be looking after my son this time round so we might need someone on the day - which makes me a bit sad as I really want it just to be me, my OH, my son & no2 for the first 24-48 hrs xx

I thought they always admitted people to the hospital for a couple days to a week after delivery? I would love to be able to go home right afterwords.

If there's no complications you can ask for an early discharge. I certainly plan to. That means you can leave 6 hours after.

 

[ems]

With DD loads of people came see her and to be honest I was overwhelmed and unhappy. I didnt like she was being passed from pillar to post when all I wanted to do was rest and bond.
With DS people came in dribs and drabs which for me was much better. A few visitors a day was fine.
This time round I think I wont mind people coming round so long as they either dont stay long or if they come in small numbers.

If I have so stay in hospital people will have to abide by their visiting rules which seem very sensible to me, the only person allowed to stay all day is OH or birthing partner, everyone else gets a time slot.

 

[hunniechunks]

With my son, i was still in my hospital gown (don't think i was even wearing that properly) with a catheter in and pressure pads on my legs thanks to my epidural when my inlaws came and i was totally fine with it. I was just so proud to show him off plus i think my hubby needed a bit of a boost after a 36 hour labour with no sleep!! All of my family came as well and it was great!

This time round I'm still happy to have visitors in hospital, although i'm hoping to be home a bit quicker than last time. It's nice being told how well you did Visitors are welcome at home as well (as long as i have a bit of notice) it's good having someone around to help out a bit when you're exhausted!

x

 

[kristen77]

Nope! I don't plan on being admitted like last time, so there really wasn't an opportunity for anyone to cone - especially as we didn't tell them I was in labour until after our son was born & they're a couple of hrs away. We'll see how things go as to when people come and visit us as someone will need to be looking after my son this time round so we might need someone on the day - which makes me a bit sad as I really want it just to be me, my OH, my son & no2 for the first 24-48 hrs xx

I thought they always admitted people to the hospital for a couple days to a week after delivery? I would love to be able to go home right afterwords.

Nope! You have to be there for about 6 hrs postpartum then you can do what you want assuming everything was went as it should! I had a straightforward waterbirth so was never admitted to a ward - arrived at hosp at 8.30am, bubs arrived at 10.46am, was home by 6pm! Just like a day at work !

Xx

 

[Gem_Clem]

I dont mind my family coming in to visit, I have a close family. Only me and hubby will be in the room for the birth but afterwards I dont mind who comes in. I feel the same about when I get home too. I would never tell our parents that they can't come visit because they are so excited about becoming Grandparents, I couldn't take that away from them. I know how I feel when I have a new Niece or Nephew I can't wait to see them!

 

[Mrs HM]

I'm torn about this. On the one hand I think I'll be really looking forward to showing off the baby to everyone, but on the other hand my MIL is totally overbearing and controlling and will outstay her welcome whether she visits at home or hospital.

I wish I could just banish my inlaws but I doubt hubby would be too pleased!

 

[kirbyland1986]

Planning to not have visitors and going to make them wait at least for a few days when I get home! But doubt it's gonna happen

 

[Noirin]

meee, last time round i was so lost and lonely, no doctor or mw came near me all nyt just me and my son, was so frightening, this time id defo welcome a bit of company lol and will be dyin to see my son, duno how ill cope bein away from him hopin i have a quick labour x

 

[Wishing_well]

I'm hopefully planning to only have visitors once we're settled at home, and I've had time to sort myself out.
I want it to just be me and my OH for a day or two since you can't get those moments back!

 

[xloulabellex]

I plan on just my OH in the delivery room with me.. close relatives can come visit in hospital but when i'm home.. I need a few days just Dan, Harley & me.. OUR bonding time. xx