Does it ever become real?

[NeyNey]

I'm 9 weeks now, and I still am unable to relax and really admit to myself that I'm pregnant, I think the MC and the LTTTC has left scars that are so hard to get past. I still don't feel or admit to myself that I'm pregnant, as I'm scared of getting attached to this bean...Afraid it will leave me like before.

I mean I talk about the pregnancy, I rub my belly, I goo and gaa with the best of them, but it doesn't feel "real"...I'm not sure if that even makes sense. I can't see myself with this massive big belly bump, I can't picture myself holding a little one?

Is this normal?

 

[mrsw777]

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

All I can say is what you're feeling is completely normal, so please don't worry. Even now at 33 weeks I still have times when I can't believe that I've got this far & am so close to having my baby safely in my arms. I've got through this pregnancy by focussing on one week, one scan, one appointment at a time (lots of little milestones) & it seems to have worked so far - infact time has flown by, hopefully it will be the same for you.

Make sure you talk to DP/DH as he will be feeling the same as you but as with most men, will hide his emotions to be strong for you. My DH has been a great support but I often forget that is finding this journey difficult too.

Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy

xxx

 

[littleblonde]

Im the same. I just cant relax. I was actually thinking toi myself the other day that she is due in 8 weeks and im not really prepared as i dont actually thinik she is coming. I have hardly brought anything and what i have brought i have had to force myself to buy. Its horrible and really sad. I look at these girls that ae bouncing around and i want to be one. Your not alone hun

 

[NeyNey]

Thanks girls. Sometimes my family looks at me weird, my mother is so excited for us (my sister is pregnant too, due in 7 weeks) but because I don't share all the enthusiasm she thinks I'm depressed, I try to tell her I'm not depressed - I'm just trying to take it one day at a time, everyday I wake up and I'm still pregnant I kind of feel surprised. I have my NT scan at 12 weeks, everytime I think of the scan, I don't think how cute baby will look - I think "Lets pray baby is still growing"....I picture the Sonographer telling me bad news, even though I try my hardest not to....I try to keep a PMA - but sometimes it's just overwhelming...

 

[miel]

As you know Neyney ...i havent experience a loss...but lttc was hard and my pregnancy too...i always had a hard to time to connect with my pregnancy and my bean too...i do have to said ..i did feel confortable with the pregnancy passing the 35 weeks stage only and i did connect with the baby when i did my 3 D scan...this is when i really let myself "love " him if i can be honest ....
i was afraid that once he will be born i will feel nothing or have no connection with him so i even require the meds staff to hand him to Daniel first when i deliver as to try to delay as long as possible the moment of true ..but i did ...it was very powerful i cried of joy as soon as Daniel handed him to me

 

[JASMAK]

NeyNey, I think that is normal. I mean, even with my first, and I had no issues with my first, but I do remember it being quite unbelievable. When you start showing, and when the baby starts kicking....that is when it will be quite believable. I know that I am a bit "cut off" emotionally from this one, because of the m/c's... it messed me up. But, I think once we see and feel our babies (and we stop feeling so icky) it will all become much more real and exciting. I remember driving in the car when I was pregnant with my son, and I was singing to some music...and he started moving. That was when I really felt that it was real. It was amazing and I felt that connection. Brings me to tears thinking of that moment. You will have yours too.

 

[bky]

I think it's normal. I'm just now starting to get a bit excited as I grow more of a bump. Still afraid to fully commit to excitement iykwim.
In 1st tri I basically had to turn my brain off and pretend I wasn't pregnant so I could get through it.

 

[lauralora]

deffo normal im the same, my mum was really upset with me when i told her i wasnt getting 2 attached because didnt want to be heartbroken again.
and when my dad says things like, is he kicking yet? i get all anxious asif i have to be aware of the negativies because no one else is realised them, my bf constantly says, it will be fine LOL xx

 

[dizzy65]

i feel the same way

 

[Jellyt]

It's definately normal hun. I was absolutely terrified at the beginning of this pregnancy and if i'm honest, I still am. I've experienced losses too and I know that it takes away a lot of the simple joys of pregnancy. I know it's a lot easier said than done to relax but as every appointment and scan passes, I find it gets a little bit easier. I've been a wreck before every appointment but i'm beginning to believe that this might be it for me and I wish you all the luck in the world with your pregnancy! We're all here to talk to about ANY worries you have xxx

 

[mrsstreet0417]

I am over 15 weeks now and I keep telling DH that I still just feel like I ate too much and get sick a lot I don't feel pregnant, I am hoping that it becomes more real once I start feeling the baby move!!!

 

[Drazic<3]

Aww darling I know what you are saying, and I feel exactly the same. With my last pregnancy, I fell head over heals straight away, and then when we got that bad news it was like my heart was broken. It crushed me and I am only now just starting to begin to cope with it really. I am too scared to let myself feel the same way this time and if to protect myself, to make the fall not so big when what I can't help but consider 'the enevitable'.

I hope everyday that this will be our time and as our babies will grow heathier and stronger each day. Always keep that hope darling.

 

[Vicyi]

Congrats hun! It is totally normal to feel like this. I am now almost 29weeks pregnant and it STILL doesnt feel real. I'm sure it will when buba gets here though

 

[Claire788]

believe it or not, I'm still in denial, and due in a week! After 2 MC's I cant get my head around the fact that everything will be ok. I still have some negative thoughts which I try to shove out with positive ones, but until her's actually in my arms, I dont think I'll belive it! so your def not alone hun!

 

[Bingo]

It's totally normal. Even though I'm mega excited, I still find it hard at times to imagine this pregnancy progressing as it should.

 

[JennTheMomma]

Totally normal. When you start to grow and you can feel baby move, then it feels real. I went through this with both my pregnancies after my miscarriage.

 

[NeyNey]

Thanks girls, well I'm getting closer to the 12 week mark, which I will feel a little more safe at. I can't wait for movement, I think that will bring it all home.

I still sit here everyday and think this isn't going to last....This is going to be taken from me anyday now.

*sighs* horrible way to think...I just want to be happy!