a couple of family members of mine have decided to have another LO next year, neither of them are really in the situation they would want to be in (regarding money, work, space) but kind of have the attitude like 'we want another baby, lets have another baby & everything will sort itself out & we will have to work around things' Its just making me think of the checklist me & OH have, is it all really neccesary (people get by without a car don't they?) Its just annoying thinking im doing the right thing by waiting & things will be easier if we wait & tick everything we want off...blah..blah. & people all around me are now forgetting about waiting & just doing it. cant i just have another & not care about what would be best??! everything is so confusing.