trickytrouble
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Hi,
I'm not much of a poster on here but do tend to read an awful lot but this is really bugging me and I need to get it off my chest.
I have an 18 week old daughter (who was very much wanted after a very very long journey to get pregnant). I had a very traumatic birth and initially thought I was suffering with PND but it worked out to be PTSD (legal action being taken against the hospital as we speak). Anyway to cut a long story short I havent really bonded all that much with the DD (still !!) and unfortunately I had to return to work a few weeks ago (as the OH earns very little money and we couldnt afford to live on maternity pay) therefore my mother cares for DD full time from Monday to Friday. However, the last few weeks have been freezing cold and DD has been staying at my mums from Sunday night and each night until Friday. The reason for this is that I work 50 miles out of London and my commute is horrendous each day (I drive) and my parents live 15 miles in the OTHER direction therefore I initially thought that I would get up at 6am, bundle DD in the car, get her to my mums and then go back to work, of course I wasn't getting into work until 10am so the most feasible thing to do is leave DD with my mum. In all fairness DD is a good baby, she sleeps through from 7.30pm to 7.30am, she has a feed at 7.30am on waking then sleeps again until 10am so she is no trouble overnight. I leave work at 4.30pm, go straight to mums, spend time with DD, put her to bed and then go back to my home.
I feel terribly guilty that I dont have her at home with us during the week but travel wise it isnt feasible. Sometimes I wish that I didnt have to go back to work but we truly cant afford for me not to be working.
Does this make me a bad mum. I had a few nasty comments from some of the other parents at the clinic, therefore I have now changed the clinic and my mum takes her to one local to her area.
I seriously feel like shit right now !! and am even more worried that my daughter will grow up not knowing who I am !!
TTx
I'm not much of a poster on here but do tend to read an awful lot but this is really bugging me and I need to get it off my chest.
I have an 18 week old daughter (who was very much wanted after a very very long journey to get pregnant). I had a very traumatic birth and initially thought I was suffering with PND but it worked out to be PTSD (legal action being taken against the hospital as we speak). Anyway to cut a long story short I havent really bonded all that much with the DD (still !!) and unfortunately I had to return to work a few weeks ago (as the OH earns very little money and we couldnt afford to live on maternity pay) therefore my mother cares for DD full time from Monday to Friday. However, the last few weeks have been freezing cold and DD has been staying at my mums from Sunday night and each night until Friday. The reason for this is that I work 50 miles out of London and my commute is horrendous each day (I drive) and my parents live 15 miles in the OTHER direction therefore I initially thought that I would get up at 6am, bundle DD in the car, get her to my mums and then go back to work, of course I wasn't getting into work until 10am so the most feasible thing to do is leave DD with my mum. In all fairness DD is a good baby, she sleeps through from 7.30pm to 7.30am, she has a feed at 7.30am on waking then sleeps again until 10am so she is no trouble overnight. I leave work at 4.30pm, go straight to mums, spend time with DD, put her to bed and then go back to my home.
I feel terribly guilty that I dont have her at home with us during the week but travel wise it isnt feasible. Sometimes I wish that I didnt have to go back to work but we truly cant afford for me not to be working.
Does this make me a bad mum. I had a few nasty comments from some of the other parents at the clinic, therefore I have now changed the clinic and my mum takes her to one local to her area.
I seriously feel like shit right now !! and am even more worried that my daughter will grow up not knowing who I am !!
TTx