Does this sound about right?

[jenkins]

hey ladies,

would really appreciate any thoughts on my gorgeous boy's settling and crying.

he is 13 days old and we have just been feeding him when he's hungry, he has about 4oz every 3 to 4 hours.

after feeding he is awake for about 1 1/2 hrs where he can be quite grumpy and will cry if i put him down. the last few days he will only settle literally on me, not on dh or in his swing or moses basket. i just then put him in his moses basket when he's asleep.

its the crying thats bothering me, it just seems to take so much time to settle him and because he then only sleeps for about an 1 1/2 before he wants his next feed its obviously hard to get any sleep.

i'm really lucky that dh is here with me and is really hands on but bless him the baby just will not settle for him and i either wake up because he's crying or dh has to wake me up.

i've tried swaddling but it seems to anger him. i've offered him more feed but if he does take another ounce it just comes back up. he's been on infacol for about a week and i'm pretty sure we're getting all his wind up.

am i right in thinking that its too soon to try any sort of routine or anything like that. and the midwife and family just say ohhh leave him to cry, he'll go to sleep on his own eventually, but there is no way i can do it, i just can't and i don't think its the right thing to do anyway.

dh thinks the crying is excessive but i think its normal

sorry its so long but any thoughts on if this sounds normal would be appreciated, thanks

 

[smokey]

From what I remember (iv kinda blocked out the first few weeks) it sounds pretty normal.
Seems like hes just overtired, babies that young cant go very long between naps at all but learning to sleep when tired is very confusing and frustrating for them, tiredness is often confessed for hunger to them and all these new emotions, feeling, growthspurts the poor little thigs just dont know what to make of it all
It does get alot better though.

Leaving them to cry is a personal choice but not realy somthing id recomend for someone so young especialy when they cant help it and probably dodnt even uknow or understand why they are crying themselves.

 

[jenkins]

Leaving them to cry is a personal choice but not realy somthing id recomend for someone so young especialy when they cant help it and probably dodnt even uknow or understand why they are crying themselves.

i agree, thanks so much for your thoughts

 

[GingerNut]

He's very young to be staying awake for that long. It should be pretty much just eat, change nappy, sleep at that age.

I also wouldn't recommend leaving such a little scrap to cry.

 

[BabyGirl999]

I don't know your thoughts on dummies, but it might help soothe him?

 

[Miss Hamilton]

This was my little boy for the first couple of weeks, hes now a month and getting lots better. Even started to find time to get dressed.

Max would stay awake for hours, crying or wanting to be cuddled. It got quite bad but like you had a good other half to help.

Do you drive or have access to a car? Babies generally like going out in the car and settle quickly.

If Max isn't settling i take him out for a walk, fresh air tends to knock him out or at the least calms him down.

Only routine we have established is bed time, it helps him settle loads better on a night.

Good luck x

 

[lilbumpblue]

I wonder if he perhaps has colic or reflux, and the way you cradle him perhaps soothes it...do you hold him on your chest in an upright position?? x

 

[bathbabe]

he may have trapped wind? Try winding him for an extra 5-10mins after a feed. And change his nappy before a feed that way if he gets sleepy during a feed as soon as hes winded he can sleep. Give him cuddles until he is asleep/dropping off, then put him down. This is still what i do with my Lo now and hes 3months! Nappy, feed, wind, sleep, play, nappy, feed, wind, sleep, play. Except during the night as soon as he woke for a feed id change his nappy and leave out the play obviously, and from 10weeks he hasnt woken for a feed in the night! He obviously realised mummy will not play when its dark out! Haha x

 

[jenkins]

He's very young to be staying awake for that long. It should be pretty much just eat, change nappy, sleep at that age.

hmm thats what i thought too????

lilbumpblue - come to think of it yeah i do hold him in a pretty upright position, from now on like bathbabe too said, i'll try winding him for extra long to see if that helps.

how will i know if it is relux, would i go to the doctor?

babygirl999 - i do give him a dummy, sometimes he loves it and sucks happily and other times he won't entertain it. it does bring him comfort tho when he's in the mood.

miss hamilton - that gives me hope that it gets easier lol, yeah we do have a car, just haven't really been out as haven't really felt up to it, but will defo try thr fresh air thing, think it'll do me good too.

thanks so much everyone