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[Emmea12uk]

Hello.... First of all I am sorry for all your losses.

I am not sure which option to take. I wish I could just have evac and get it over with but I am worried about the ga

I want to wait but i need to look after my disabled son on my own. I hate the idea of the pill

 

[readytogiveup]

Hello.... First of all I am sorry for all your losses.

I am not sure which option to take. I wish I could just have evac and get it over with but I am worried about the ga

I want to wait but i need to look after my disabled son on my own. I hate the idea of the pill

hi i too had to make the choice, having worked on my local gynae ward on several shifts i saw many ladies having d + c after sit and wait and the pill, both of these were very stressful and upseting for the ladies involved. they had to have d + c to remove RETAINED PRODUCTS.. sorry i hate that phrase those PRODUCTS were your child. i had the d + c was quick painless and not at all messy, only tiny loss, odviously still in pain emotionally but i think that is draining enough, my heart goes out to you i understand your pain, my op was last wk. take carex

 

[Serene123]

Sorry for your loss!!

 

[hayley x]

I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[hippylittlej]

Sorry for your loss. It is really hard, you have to do what is best for you and only you can make the choice.

 

[milkmachine]

i wouldnt advise a d+c but you know my reasons for that, you have to do whats right for you. is mike able to take time off of work?

 

[misscs]

So sorry for your loss.

I had an EPRC last week (also hate the term 'retained products'!!). I was 10 1/2 weeks and they said they didnt recommend pill over 9 weeks due to size of baby. Was ok - still some pans and obvious emotional sadness still but it was all done when I was asleep so no physical passing the sac which I dont know how I would have coped with. My main downside was they put me to sleep without saying they were about to I never felt I actually got to say my final goodbye despite the waiting before the procedure

At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and your son (and partner as guessing from previous comment?). If you have EPRC you will need someone after - I was told not even to operate a kettle or toaster for 48hours an felt drained for a few days - did have a big drop in BP though. I had never had one before and it was all such a shock from my scan on friday and discovering no HB to the EPRC on the following tuesday - lack of time to grieve, I thought I would be fine by the friday and ok for work - i was very wrong. Still tired now - Im back at work and coping but still on early nights and not quite myself. I dont know about side-effects of the pill but imagine similar with anything as anything will evoke emotionally and your body needs time to adjust.

All the best x

 

[Emmea12uk]

i wouldnt advise a d+c but you know my reasons for that, you have to do whats right for you. is mike able to take time off of work?

Yes he came home. Everyone keeps saying the op is easy and over quickly. I don't want to wait as the baby is nine weeks and 19mm. That is big enough for me to know when it comes out and I will be distraught. Plus mike needs to be here.

 

[Emmea12uk]

So sorry for your loss.

I had an EPRC last week (also hate the term 'retained products'!!). I was 10 1/2 weeks and they said they didnt recommend pill over 9 weeks due to size of baby. Was ok - still some pans and obvious emotional sadness still but it was all done when I was asleep so no physical passing the sac which I dont know how I would have coped with. My main downside was they put me to sleep without saying they were about to I never felt I actually got to say my final goodbye despite the waiting before the procedure

At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and your son (and partner as guessing from previous comment?). If you have EPRC you will need someone after - I was told not even to operate a kettle or toaster for 48hours an felt drained for a few days - did have a big drop in BP though. I had never had one before and it was all such a shock from my scan on friday and discovering no HB to the EPRC on the following tuesday - lack of time to grieve, I thought I would be fine by the friday and ok for work - i was very wrong. Still tired now - Im back at work and coping but still on early nights and not quite myself. I dont know about side-effects of the pill but imagine similar with anything as anything will evoke emotionally and your body needs time to adjust.

All the best x

Thank you. The more stories I read about the eprc and the pill the more I think the epic may be the right choice. I don't want to pass a 20mm baby. I can't cope with that. I am guessing the sac will be quite big too. I just want it over with.

 

[bluesky]

sorry u r here

I had the pill and unfortunatly had retained products so ended up having a d n c in the end anyway. I thought it would be horrible as never had a GA before but I was fine and on holiday the following week walking in the peak district.

 

[mummy2anangel]

so sorry for your loss hunni, well im not really one to advise because i opted for the tablets and when i had my follow up scan the next week was told there was still some tissue left and i ended up having to have D&C anyway. i hope whichever option you choose that its all over quickly and complication freefor you, thinking of you sweetie x

 

[Pippin]

Hey love, sorry you are here with me. I don't know what choice to make either but I think I might wait it out as my bean stopped at 3mm so it's a bit different to you. I understand how much you want it over with though, me too. I have to wait another week to get scanned again before they give me the choice. My hospital said today they prefer doing a D&C as it's quicker but my Mum is against me having. Just need to think about it for a while and make my own choice. Thinking of you xxxx

 

[jojo2605]

Em I'm so so sorry for your loss, I didn't know xxxx

 

[Emmea12uk]

Hey love, sorry you are here with me. I don't know what choice to make either but I think I might wait it out as my bean stopped at 3mm so it's a bit different to you. I understand how much you want it over with though, me too. I have to wait another week to get scanned again before they give me the choice. My hospital said today they prefer doing a D&C as it's quicker but my Mum is against me having. Just need to think about it for a while and make my own choice. Thinking of you xxxx

Who'd have thought we'd end up in here together?? I promised my baby I would not have him/her in hospital because the last experience put me off for life. I am terrified of the ga and I have a blood clotting disorder leaving at risk of dvt. But I don't want to see it and I need to b e around to look after Tom and his extra needs. My partner is only home for a week.

The choice needs to be ours at the end of the day. You should do what is best for you.

Xx