Hello all, I'm a 'Dad to be', and I just wanted to get some outsiders' perspectives on this subject. I'm admittedly having a tough time getting my head around it, and need it off my chest. My wife seems quite attached to the idea of having a Doula involved. I want to be as supportive of everything she wants and needs over the next 9 months as humanly possible, of course... But I'm having a lot of trouble with this one. Maybe it's my "fem side" talking, but I've always imagined what "the delivery room experience" would be like, and I've always looked forward to being the "pillar of strength" that she would need in her hardest moments. (before and during labor). From what I understand, a doula's job is to more or less take that responsibility away from me. The only true "challenge" that I'll have to face that day is being handed to someone else.. I think I'll feel completely useless, in the way, and at no point will I feel like I'm able to fulfill my most important roll as a father and husband.. I'm not a selfish person, but we're also open with eachother about how we feel. It seems I'm between a rock and hard place...? Anyone's thoughts?