I'm not having it for the reasons most of the others have said. It doesn't change anything, I will still love the baby in the same way and I wouldn't consider not having him/her.
Fairydust, my jaw hit the keyboard when i read your post. I can understand some people suggesting that in some circumstances it might not be right to bring a child into the world with a very, very poor quality of life, but to say that you 'shouldn't inflict them on society' OMG, who does she think she is? I know you said she's a friend, but with friends like that who needs enemies?
Sometimes people's true colours really do surprise you
I do wonder if I've done the right thing, as my friends baby had severe difficulties when born - her osophagous wasn't connected to the stomach, she was in hospital for 18 weeks, has had one heart op, still feeds through a tube at 9 months old, needs a major heart op at 18-24 months, and has an issue with her spine which will manifest itself in her early teens - and she is the most adorable, contented and good natured baby of any of friend's children. Her mum had several scans, and was monitored because she was so big, they knew there was a possibility of something being 'not quite right' but none of it was picked up on scans, and none of the possibilities were outlined to them.
Yes they would have preferred to have known there little girl was going to be in hospital for nearly 5 months and treatment throughout her life, but they've managed and I hope if it comes to it and my baby has some form of difficulty I will too.
