Dreading announcing pregnancy at work...

[Smile181c]

Hi guys,

I'm nearly 6 weeks pregnant so I know it's a while before I have to announce it to everyone at work (my manager already knows) but I'm already dreading it!

All the ladies at my workplace (office) are all middle age+ and I'm dreading all the comments I'm gonna get from them regarding my pregnancy, even though I've been with OH for 5 years AND we're engaged, plus we have a good house, jobs etc!

A girl I work with is 25 (I'm 20) and she's just announced hers and everyone's happy but I know that they're gonna consider me 'too young' - how do you all deal with the comments you get from closed minded people? It really riles me, but I don't really have the courage to retaliate! Any advice is appreaciated

 

[beanzz]

I'm 18 and told everyone at work when I was about 5 weeks pregnant. Mainly because risk assessments needed doing and heavy lifting was sometimes a part of it. I just blurted it out to get it over and done with

 

[Smile181c]

Fair enough! Did you get any comments of anyone (obvs other than the nice ones!) x

 

[Abby_]

Thankfully i only had a to tell a few people before the whole place knew. I told HR pretty soon as i needed to do a risk assessment and it was an excuse for me to be laaaazy.

I only had one 'off' comment from one woman who just said 'Oh Abby what have you been up to...' in a really scarcastic tone. I just ignored her.

I also get 'looks' off some customers, but i dgaf! It's none of their business.

Just brush off any nasty comments and focus on all the nice ones.

Congrats on your pregnancy, hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months.

 

[mummyb1]

I told people at my work last week as I used to carry up all the deliveries we would get in and bring them up flights of stairs so I thought they needed to know that I wouldn't be able to do that anymore and needed to be at my computer more instead of doing all those bits, most people took it well and congratulated me and a hand full said I was to young and gave me a lecture and poked thier nose in to which I just egnord as its nothing to do with them.

Good luck with telling them and don't worry just egnor if you get any silly comments for some reason some people do think they have a right to voice thier opinion even when its not wanted or needed

 

[Smile181c]

Thankyou

I hope I only get nice ones, but I know I'll at least get a couple said to my face (the majority will be behind my back!) xx

 

[charmedlassie]

Just tell the people that need to know. That is how most people do it at my work no one really knows (except like personnel, managers etc) 'till they start showing.

 

[Jennaxo]

I'm sure it'll go a lot better than you think it will, I told my work last saturday and was so relieved afterwards, they were all so nice about it.
I'm kinda expecting dirty looks off the customers when I start to show though as I work in a zoo shop so a lot of older mums coming in and I know what some of them can be like, especially the season ticket holders who can be really mean for no reason what so ever! But at the end of the day their opinions don't matter as long as I'm happy and I love my LO which I do and will.
Hope all goes well for you

 

[Miss_Quirky]

Personally, mine did not go over well and I got laid off the day after I told my manager. But everyone else was happy with it. About being young, I think just simply saying something like "I'm just happy I've met my husband-to-be, a house, and am starting a family. I'm just lucky." tends to shut people up

 

[Smile181c]

Aw thanks

Did they lay you off BECAUSE you were pregnant? That's awful! xx

 

[BeckiiAndBump]

You're from Cheltenham?! You live near me. It's always going to be had to tell them because people can be so judgemental. Try to ignore all bitchy comments and remember that no matter what people think you will be a good mum.

 

[Smile181c]

Thanks Yep! Haven't lived here long though xx

 

[amygwen]

This is such a familiar thread, I swear I wrote something similiar when I joined two years ago!

Anyways, I was nervous about announcing my pregnancy at work, as I'm the youngest and I work with a lot of middle-aged women and men. I told my manager when I was about 14 weeks along (and wasn't planning on telling her so soon, but she was offering me a payrise so I felt like she needed to know, I didn't want her to give me the payrise then tell her.) She was surprisingly supportive. I remember her shocked face LOL, she gave me a hug and was really nice about it. I told the rest of my co-workers and they were really nice about it, everyone was supportive. And I expected them not to be! You'll be fine though, just tell them whenever you feel most comfortable announcing your pregnancy.

 

[Smile181c]

Thankyou