Dubious viability

[tag74]

Sorry you're going through this. At 6 weeks 2 days, my LO's heart rate was 102 and 10 days later 151. I really hope this little guys heart just started and that you ovulated a little later than you even realize.

Hang in there...we're here for you!

 

[chipsticks]

Just reading your story now, keeping everything crossed for you

 

[Sweetkat]

Thank you everyone - I know there is a tiny bit of hope. The nurse even said that miracles do happen, but not looking good with how far out I am, the big yolk sack and the slow heartbeat.

I just can't believe that after millions of years of evolution, nature would be so cruel

 

[Sweetkat]

Ok so OH and I had a massive argument last night because he asked if he can go to a parent teacher evening for his son from a previous relationship and how important it is what subjects he chooses for GCSEs. Really? While I am on the verge of miscarriage and his baby is fighting for its life all he can think about is GCSEs? So upset and angry at him.

He then pretended to be dumb and said you are not miscarrying. Really? I even said the Drs said if bleeding gets really heavy to come back to hospital because of course it could start any time with everything that's been going on.

And now just woke up to light bleeding and can't stop crying. Everyone is pregnant, or back from maternity leave or just given birth and this is my second miscarriage in 4 months. Looked at OH sperm analysis and he has borderline tetrazoosoermia (94% of his sperm heads are deformed and the table says 1.5 when it should be 1.5 or below). So I am really worried that if we try again it will just carry on happening . And I don't want this again. Was so happy to be pregnant again and exactly a month on it's all over.

 

[smileyfaces]

I know this is hard for you but I don't think you should have stopped your partner from attending his sons parents evening. His education is important and its good that he wants to be involved in it.

Sorry you are going through this but I feel that its wrong for you to be angry at your partner for this.

When are you back at the hospital? Do you have any fertility appointments to discuss your partners new sperm test results?

 

[Sweetkat]

I know this is hard for you but I don't think you should have stopped your partner from attending his sons parents evening. His education is important and its good that he wants to be involved in it.

Sorry you are going through this but I feel that its wrong for you to be angry at your partner for this.

When are you back at the hospital? Do you have any fertility appointments to discuss your partners new sperm test results?

I didn't say he couldn't go. I was just upset that instead of supporting me he would leave me alone with a 2yr and no family near us. So on my own basically to drive 1 hour there, 1 hour back for the sake of a 5 minute chat with some teacher.

We don't have any appointments with anyone. I don't know what they can do, because he can't stop the medication that is making all his sperm results borderline, I honestly think that's what's causing the MCs.

Sigh.

 

[A1983]

Could you speak to a fertility specialist re the medication? Could he stop it just until you fell pregnant? (This may mean a new load of sperm via the spermatogenesis process so 3 months) good luck - it's such a hard and lonely time for you I'm sure but although it's so all consuming now, one day you'll look back with your baby in your arms

 

[Sweetkat]

Could you speak to a fertility specialist re the medication? Could he stop it just until you fell pregnant? (This may mean a new load of sperm via the spermatogenesis process so 3 months) good luck - it's such a hard and lonely time for you I'm sure but although it's so all consuming now, one day you'll look back with your baby in your arms

I wish he could give up the medication. He tried before I conceived in September but only lasted 2.5 months, last 1.5 months in awful pain and barely able to function. He has an autoimmune condition and the medication is the only thing making it ok. And then I was frantically trying to get pregnant but only happened 2 month and by that time he was already taking it again for 5iah weeks. Made it to 9.2 that time but baby stopped growing at 8.3.

His consultant said was ok to get pregnant on it and despite me being really worried re trying while he is on medication and with borderline abnormal sperm results, got pregnant 2 months after the end of the miscarriage (when test turned negative), but all started going wrong when went for a private scan at 6&5 (baby already measuring a week behind and no heartbeat).

So now I just don't know what to do. Of course it could be unrelated to his medication and sth to do with me, but still terrified it is the medicine. And the leaflet in it says not to get pregnant until the man has been off it for at least 3 months. So obv they think it does interfere with sperm production.

 

[A1983]

Well yes - if the leaflet says to wait 3 months then there must be a reason. I know Google can be evil but have you had a little search? Seen if anyone else has fallen pregnant ok?

 

[Sweetkat]

Well yes - if the leaflet says to wait 3 months then there must be a reason. I know Google can be evil but have you had a little search? Seen if anyone else has fallen pregnant ok?

Dr Google has examples of people being ok and also other way. It used to be a 6 month wait to fall pregnant after this medication was taken by a man. Recently reduced to 3. Also some Drs actually recommend abortion if you fall pregnant while your partner is taking it because of the risks. And well with me for example, nobody will ever be able to say whether his sperm is badly affected by the medicine or whether it's unrelated bad luck. Really tough

My daughter is a week younger than your baby and I would love another one. But don't know if I can do it again with this medication in the background...