Due date drama

[Eternal]

It looks like i will be due right at sister in laws wedding (which will cause a drama in itself), to make matters worse they live 550 miles away (10 - 12 hours by car). hubby is freaking out about the journey and not wanting to miss the wedding!

At this moment im not bothered, just enjoying the fact im pregnant, but its sad to see hubby so stressed about the whole thing!

were happy though, just need to not try and hubby baby along at all this time lol! actually wanting an overdue baby

 

[CLH_X3]

Can you not just miss the wedding ? I think you have a valid reason for that.

I think that is what i would do if it was that far away!! ..

 

[miss cakes]

wouldnt worry too much babies never come on time! x

 

[Palestrina]

Is your SIL upset with you for being pregnant? These things can't be helped. You need to worry about yourself and your baby and stop worrying about how your pregnancy fits into other people's schedule. Tell your hubby if he's that torn about it just to go on and go to the wedding and you'll fend for yourself when it's time to deliver. If he's smart he'll realize what the priority should be.

You can send her a lovely gift and perhaps a video of you, hubby, and your preggo belly that they can play during the reception. In the video you can say "we really wish we could be there with you today but we're expecting a visit from the stork!" and then go on to wish them happiness etc. Even have a glass of sparkling gingerale in your hand to toast them. Everybody will understand and be touched by your effort.

 

[Doodlepants]

Is your SIL upset with you for being pregnant? These things can't be helped. You need to worry about yourself and your baby and stop worrying about how your pregnancy fits into other people's schedule. Tell your hubby if he's that torn about it just to go on and go to the wedding and you'll fend for yourself when it's time to deliver. If he's smart he'll realize what the priority should be.

You can send her a lovely gift and perhaps a video of you, hubby, and your preggo belly that they can play during the reception. In the video you can say "we really wish we could be there with you today but we're expecting a visit from the stork!" and then go on to wish them happiness etc. Even have a glass of sparkling gingerale in your hand to toast them. Everybody will understand and be touched by your effort.

What a good idea! I think that sounds really nice. You don't want to be doing all that travelling so late on anyway x

 

[BabyBoyle]

What a lovely idea!!!!

As said, your partner should realise that his CHILD comes before anything from now on... even a wedding, plus, im sure theyll save you some cake

 

[MandyV]

I feel for u our baby is due the week my DH whole entire family will be gone on a 7 day cruise for his grandparents 50th wedding anniversary/family reunion ! Yikes they might not be able to see there 1st grandbabies birth

 

[K123]

If I was you I'd just miss the wedding. Had spoken to my sister while TTC as if I'd got pregnant a month before I did I'd have had to miss her wedding - she lives nearly 300miles away and I wasn't going to risk giving birth on the M6. She was really understanding, and we would have done a video or phoned into the Reception or something. As it is I'll be 7 and a half months pregnant so should be able to be there no problem.

 

[Eternal]

Is your SIL upset with you for being pregnant? These things can't be helped. You need to worry about yourself and your baby and stop worrying about how your pregnancy fits into other people's schedule. Tell your hubby if he's that torn about it just to go on and go to the wedding and you'll fend for yourself when it's time to deliver. If he's smart he'll realize what the priority should be.

You can send her a lovely gift and perhaps a video of you, hubby, and your preggo belly that they can play during the reception. In the video you can say "we really wish we could be there with you today but we're expecting a visit from the stork!" and then go on to wish them happiness etc. Even have a glass of sparkling gingerale in your hand to toast them. Everybody will understand and be touched by your effort.

They dont know yet, were not telling them until we def know the date!

they wont be happy though, its apparentlty the wedding of the year, they are the type of people who will be annoyed with the royal wedding! lol! they always find some way to put us down so no they wont be happy. but we were told we wouldne be able to have more so im so happy i dont care.

We used to live there, we just moved here 2 months ago, so i actaully gave birth there last time. I wouldnt be too bothered if i went into labour there but hubby is worried as i had spd last time and the journey would be a killer! eck!

 

[Eternal]

Thanks ladies, hubbys family just arnt that understanding! last time i had a baby my other SIL get pregnant the month he was born because she couldnt stand the thought of us have any attention! if we buy a new car or house etc we are competing with them and then they hate us for weeks.

its really sad and its the reason we moved away, i do get on a lot better with the sister thats getting married but she had major temper tantrums when she doent get her way! hubby really wants to go and i will support him, it isnt my first baby so i have an idea of what things will be like.

I would love to have the choice not to go, but there really isnt one.

 

[Eliza_V]

Oh bless, that's a tough decision to make! But you and your baby come first - and if she doesn't understand then that's her problem. I love the idea about doing the video though, I think if you did something like that then she would appreciate the effort

(I personally am using my baby bump as an excuse not to turn up to someones wedding in July - serves her right for not turning up to mine at the last minute with a ridiculous excuse, then having the cheek to ask me afterwards "how was the service, what's the church like, we want to get married there.." ragh. I suppose all of her benefits/tax payers money will be paying for that.. Sorry lol I can't stop ranting!!)

Try not to worry about too much until you get your dates confirmed etc

 

[Eliza_V]

And ouch SIL sounds a bit nasty - my BIL is like that!! Jealous/wants all the attention etc.. caused trouble at our wedding as he wanted to get married first, so he made a point of parading his baby around everywhere, even when we were all trying to eat and baby wanted to eat!! In-laws eh?

 

[Eternal]

thanks ladies, i do really like the video idea, if there is a turn of events will try that i think... hopfully i am not as far on as we think i am (im irregualar so its hard to really tell).

i was late with my 1st so hoping i will be late with this one too.

 

[mommytoTandE]

babies never arrive on their due dates... mine come 2-3 weeks early. Maybe if you due date is close, you ob/gyn or midwife can induce you a bit early so you and the newborn can travel... I would not want to be 39-40 weeks pregnant in a car that long. What if you went into labor in route? You don't want to be that far from home. Your dr. may not allow it. Here in the states, you must stay within 20 -30 minutes from you home the last few weeks.

Good luck... Hopefully they will surprise you and be understanding...

 

[MissBabyBump]

Well the majority of your 3rd Trimester the doctor will tell you that you aren't allowed to travel...so that will definitely be something you have to discuss with your husband...maybe someone could video tape it for you guys! Not worth being put in a bad situation with delivery!

 

[petitpas]

I'm in a similar situation! If this little one sticks, then I'm due the day after my little sister's wedding. She's getting married abroad!

 

[Eternal]

I'm in a similar situation! If this little one sticks, then I'm due the day after my little sister's wedding. She's getting married abroad!

oh dear! how will she feel about that?

 

[petitpas]

She was extremely upset when she found out about my first loss so if i get that far i think she'll understand. She's pregnant herself at the moment I'd be really gutted though and probably start the eviction process well in advance! here's to hoping i get that far in the first place fxfxfx I am sure that nobody judges you if you don't make the journey at that stage in your pregnancy, least of all your oh.

 

[Eternal]

thanks ladies

 

[miss cakes]

if they are really that bothered they could move the wedding date forward you cant decide when your baby comes (most the time lol) x