Early 30's TTC #1

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  1. Caroline:-)

    Caroline:-) Mummy of 2 boys &pregnant

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    Hi all :hi: ,
    I'm 31 and on my 4th month TTC #1... Finding myself getting quite down about this whole thing not happening yet :cry: (even though I know realistically it's not been long yet!) so would love some buddies around my age also TTC their first... I'm praying I get a BFP soon [-o< , so come on guys, maybe we can bring each other some GL... We can go on to be bump buddies then too...
    :dust: to everyone :hugs:
     
  2. Beaner86

    Beaner86 Well-Known Member

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    Hi my name is Alexia and I am TTC my first :happydance: I'm 24 and DBF and I have been TTC for under a month but I don't think I'm gonna ovulate this month sigh my temps are all over the place lol!

    :dust:
     
  3. arianne

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    Hey Caroline!!
    as you read in my other post... I am 32, TTC#1, and just starting my cycle#5.... so I am ahead of you by one in age and cycle# ;)

    yes, let's walk this journey together... and let's cheer up each other!!
    I need ttc buddies that are in the same boat, to paddle the boat together :friends:

    :hugs: to all!
     
  4. arianne

    arianne Well-Known Member

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    So Caroline... Have you gone to a doctor to get tested yet? I know is too early, and doctors don't want to see you until you have tried for a year.... but I think that is just mean!!! If I feel this way by trying for 4 months only, I can't imagine how would I feel after a year!!
    I have been going to the doctor already..I had to lie to be seen :amartass:... I don't want to waste any time!!! specially because of my age! If I would be 25 or even 30 I would feel less stressed about it... but I feel my time is ticking!:cry: I will be 33 in May!!!! :cry: How did this happen???
    At least you are one year younger... I wish I would have started last year.... When will you be 32?
     
  5. arianne

    arianne Well-Known Member

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    Hi Alexia! You are so young!!! wish I had your age!!!
    Enjoy this journey... I am sure it will be easier and less stressful for you..
    good luck girlie!! :kiss:
     
  6. FionaHere

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    HI Gals,
    Me & DH both are in late 20's, TTC for #1 , for 3 cycles. Hoping and Praying that this is our month. Baby:baby: dust to all
     
  7. Beaner86

    Beaner86 Well-Known Member

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    LOL I don't feel young ahaha. So far I am enjoying it but that is probably because of all the BDing ahaha :happydance:

    :dust: for everyone!
     
  8. Caroline:-)

    Caroline:-) Mummy of 2 boys &pregnant

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    Hi Alexia - I just looked at your chart and I see FF has decided you did Ov this month - so that's good news hey? GL in your 1st 2ww :hugs:

    Hi Fiona, where are you in your cycle at the moment then? Did you Ov yet? GL to you :hugs:

    Hey Arianne, so what did the doctor say? How long did you tell him you'd been trying?!?!? I'm so rubbish at lying, lol, so no, I've not thought about that yet... I'll probbaly add a month or two on if it comes to it though... but fingers crossed it won't... But yeah, like you say, I don't really want to waste any time either... that's why I started temping and opks straight away - firstly to make sure I was Ov-ing after coming off bcp... and then, well, to try and get it to happen asap... Part of me was expecting it to happen really quickly though, which only adds to the dissappointment each month, but then part of me, as I mentioned, has this huge fear that it'll never happen... I really don't know how I'd cope if that were the case...
    I'm going to be 32 next June - (so even our birthdays are quite close!!! haha) and as you said, I've no idea how I came to be this age!!! I still feel like I'm 10 years younger!!!! Gees, in some ways I still feel like surely I can't be old enough to have a baby yet, let alone getting on the old side to be doing so!!!! :haha: It's so strange!!!
    So how old is your DH? Mine is 37! He's got 2 boys from a previous relationship - 13 and 16! TBH, I've always found it really hard that he has kids already when it was something I always wanted... I really struggled with that one... :cry:
    Oooh, just seen you have a journal - will pop by there sometime - but just to warn you, I am notoriously bad at keeping up with journals on here, lol!!!!! :wacko:

    Well, loads of babydust for everyone :dust: - and hope everyone will pop by here every so often for a chat and a moan :baby:
    GL all, lets hope none of us get a visit from the evil :witch:
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  9. arianne

    arianne Well-Known Member

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    Caroline!!! My only friend and ttc journal stalker!!:hugs::hugs:

    YOu are right, it is not good to lie.. but I felt I had no choice... I've been worried about my ability to have children since I turned 28, bc since then my periods have been very short and light, so I was always going to different docs to ask about it, but I felt they were not paying enough attention to me... and once, a doc asked me if I was trying to get pregnant.. so she planted the seed on my head.

    So since I knew that here they can't see you until you have tried for a year, I went in december 08 saying I wanted to see a gyno regarding my light periods as I was trying to get pregnant for 4 months and nothing (I felt funny saying I was trying for a year when I was not even ttc, so I only said 4).. so the doctor gave me an appt to see a fertility specialist for june 09!! I thought it was a joke!!! 6 months wait?!! I said "good thing I am starting this early!!

    In june last year I went to the fertility specialist, she is sooo nice, a spanish girl (I am too, so it was nice to speak in our language).
    I still remember clearly her words back then "Don't you worry, I am going to help you get pregnant" the first thing she did was look in to my uterus... and I also remember clearly her saying "wow! you have a beautiful uterus" :happydance:
    So as you can imagine, at that time, I didn't know much about the ttc game, so I told her I was just not using protection and not really trying.
    She ordered some blood tests and asked me to chart my BBT. I never made a follop up appt bc she asked me to come back with my charts and I never did them, I only wanted the test results.

    So I went back this year at the end of september, I was hoping she wouldn't ask about those charts ... so now she thinks I have been trying for a long time... but I told her that I have been really ttc since this year...

    This last time I went (I was on my CD13), she looked at my ovaries.. and told me that I had two ripe follicles! she seemed excited, although I wasn't sure what that meant... she said that that is where the eggs mature and that she can see I was going to ovulate soon... so I was confused.. bc I thought we only have 1 egg per cylce.. and she said " yes, but sometimes women have two and that is why twins happen!" :shock: later that day I tested with my ov kit and sure it came positive! so I was wondering about the twins thing..

    That day she gave me a list of things to test and check ( I can scan them I pass it on to you if you want)
    One was an sperm analysis... my hubby was "no way! it is too early to do that!" I was so mad!!:growlmad:so anyway I told him, ok I will do all mine first, and if we aren't pregnant by then, you have to go shoot in a cup!!:growlmad: so now, he is willing to do it... I cried so much yesterday, that his only way to comfort me was "ok baby I will shoot in that cup" :happydance:

    My next (3rd) appt with her is in 2 weeks! she will let me know about my ovarian reserve (Im scared!) and about the semen analysis....
    I really want to know about my hubby analysis, bc I read that ejaculating often increases their sperm quality, but if his quantity isn't great, then I shouldn't try everyday around fertility window... now I am trying to do it every other day bc I dont know if maybe he has low sperm count...If he doesn't, then I would like to do it everyday, to get a high quality sperm:happydance:

    Anyway I think this was too long! but I will keep you posted with these things... hopefully you don't need to go to any specialist... I really did all this before becuase I was very concerned about my periods being soo light... but it seems that yours are not that way...

    :kiss: to all early 30's TTC#1!!!
     
  10. arianne

    arianne Well-Known Member

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    Feel the same way!! I think we will never be 100% ready to have a baby, but age is an important factor to make that decision... If I will be younger, I will probably take my sweet time ttc

    My DH is turning 36 in january... I always bother him about being old:haha: although we are just about 4 years apart..
    And you guys will have your own kids, so it's all good! it will come soon, you will see!!
    :hugs:
    hoping for a :bfp: to one of us soon!
     
  11. Beaner86

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    I know I am already so impatient and this is only my first TWW I am really hoping that it is also my last but I don't want to get my hopes up!

    What day do you normally O?
     
  12. pink80

    pink80 Please......

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    :hi: Ladies - can I join...?

    I'm 30 (31 in Feb) and we've been trying since July (NTNP)/August (TTC). I've been with my OH (32) for 8 years and he finally agreed to try this summer, after 5 years of nagging :)

    I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 23, so I never expected this to be easy - but I didn't understand how hard it would be mentally - it's all I ever think about.

    I get what you mean about feeling 10 years younger - I still can't get my head around the fact that I'm 'in my 30s'.

    As for my cycle - they were completely out of whack during the first 7 months of the year I don't think I was ovulating, so I've taken SOY for the last 2 months and I have ovulated - which obviously helps when TTC! I'm currently 7 dpo and I'm not feeling very optimistic about it.

    Love & :dust:

    xxx
     
  13. hopefulmama2b

    hopefulmama2b Angel Mama

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    Hi ladies! I am 30 and DH is 33. We are also trying for our first. We miscarried in July and this is our first month TTC again. The mc went on for 3 months and finally got my cycle back last month so this is our first month ttcal. I'm currently using opks and I am thinking today may be a positive because I have lots of ewcm. I'll know more when I test in about 2 hours...

    Good luck to you all!
     
  14. Caroline:-)

    Caroline:-) Mummy of 2 boys &pregnant

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    Hey arianne, I didn't mean it was bad to lie about it, just that I'm soooo bad at lying - they'd know I wasn't telling the truth straight away I'm sure!!!! haha... And I love how you started with a specialist before you'd even started TTC!!!!! That would have been so funny if after all that you'd got pregnant straight away!!!! Good for you though hun, definately can't hurt to get checked out!!!!

    G0d, I have the opposite problem with my periods! For 1 or 2 days they are soooo heavy, it's really horrible... I forgot how bad it was all those years ago before I went on BCP! BCP made them soooo much better... That's another reason I need to TTC soon - I can't cope with such horrible periods for too long!!!!
     
  15. Caroline:-)

    Caroline:-) Mummy of 2 boys &pregnant

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    Hey everyone,
    Thank G0d that's Monday out of the way! Mondays suck! I've just got soooo much to do at work this week and I'm off Thursday and Friday to get an assignment done...aaaarrrggghhh... Roll on next week!!!!

    Hey Beaner, you never know - there's been plenty of girls on here who have got pregnant on their first cycle! GL! My cycles seem to have got back to normal now since bcp, and I think around CD 15/16 will be my regular O day...

    Hi and welcome Pink and hopefulmama :flower:
    Pink, I hope your pcos doesn't made it too hard for you, and hopefulmama, so sorry for your loss :hugs:
     
  16. Soleil Breeze

    Soleil Breeze Got me a bundle within!

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    I'll 31 and currently waiting for my "friend" to come. She was expected today, but has not made her ugly appearance yet. I have little hope that I'm pregnant, though. It's been 15 cycles so far and all of them have been a bust. I'm spotting and have been for days (as usual); got a BFN 10 dpo.

    [sigh]

    This is the MOST frustrating experience I have ever had. I've been at my wits end on more than one occasion and each month me and hubby try again.

    Why is it so hard!! Arrgghh.

    :hugs: Looking forward to being a TTC buddy with you guys! Best of luck!
     
  17. FionaHere

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    Happy to see so many Buddies :happydance: . And am double happy that my AF :witch: is over today. 2 weeks to Ov and 2ww... Hopefully ladies this is our month :hugs:

    Baby dust to All
     
  18. Beaner86

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    Sigh FF moved my O date now I might not be as many DPO as I thought.

    So far no symptoms but a few cramps that are probably in my head and really sore nipples.

    Anyone else have any early symptoms?
     
  19. Caroline:-)

    Caroline:-) Mummy of 2 boys &pregnant

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    Hi and welcome soleil... gosh, 15 cycles... I think I'll have driven myself mad if I'm still trying then.... I'm stressing as it is!!!! Have you been to the doctor yet? Best of luck to you hun, I really hope this is your month... :hugs:

    Glad :witch: has left you now Fiona :hugs:

    Hey Beaner, FF moved my Ov date on my first ever cycle I was charting... It told me I'd Ov'd on CD 8, and as I'd had positive opks aswell, I believed it... but then, FF changed my ov day to CD 11!!!!! And I was sooooo mad as I'd not BD'd at all round that time!!!! :grr: So I completely wasted that cycle!!!! I think it was down to me only having been off bcp for a month and my cycles seem to have settled down now... But yeah, I hope your change of Ov date hasn't affected your chances this month!!!! :hugs:
     
  20. hopefulmama2b

    hopefulmama2b Angel Mama

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    Hi ladies! It's great to see so many people! So I need opinions... The first pick are my opk from this month. Usually (this is only my third month doing them) the line is obviously positive and today I'm just not sure. The second pic is my opk the month I got pregnant and CD 12 was positive. The third pic is last month when we didn't have the dr's ok to try yet and cd 17 was positive... Thoughts??

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