I am one of many, many women who say we really don't care what gender of baby we're having, we just want it to be healthy. I know its what everybody says, because it would be horrible to say, "I really want a girl. And, honestly, if it is a boy, I am not going to love it." But do you ever wonder if people think that? The most honest things I've heard so far is from some women who have a couple of one gender or the other, and say "We're learning the gender so that my husband and I have the chance to adjust to the idea of having yet another boy/girl, if that's what it is." I think that's honest, and I'm glad that people can be that honest both with themselves and with the rest of the world. My MIL keeps going on about how badly she wants a granddaughter (which is a huge rant all on its own, LOL!)... and I can't help but wonder if she's saying, "I won't care about this baby if its a boy." She went on about it with my son, too, and she clearly adores my son... but he was her first grandbaby. I know she's petty enough to do something like that, and I have overthought it so much that I'm making myself worried that she won't love our second baby if its a boy! I really don't have a gender preference for this baby. After a devastating miscarriage... all I can think about in this pregnancy is how badly I WANT this baby. I can't imagine being upset about the sex of the baby. Anyway. Sorry for the essay... just something that has been going through my mind all day. I know some people really want a daughter or a son... but it just upsets me that my MIL has to be one of those people who is so vocal about how much she wants a granddaughter. Like, isn't my son so sweet that having a second of him would be just as thrilling? Why does it matter what sex it is?