well jake recieved a card and cheque from my ex mother in law this week, which was nice of her, but she felt the need to put a letter to me within the card! Basically in this letter she says that i should build bridges with my ex, as he has offered to buy jake a xmas present! i shouldn't be so bitter and be amicable for the sake of jake they way she wrote it you'd think what he did was all my fault. anyway i lost it and replied to ex's email about xmas presents telling him that i don't appreciate recieving these letters, as it's not her place to interfere. anyway he replied calling me everything under the sun, said that as he is now paying maintenence, he was going to stop paying the mortgage, as he doesn't see why he should, even though he is the one living in the house, he said he is going to let us both go bankrupt!! i said i wasn't going to get into an arguement about it as he will do what he wants anyway regardless of the consequences. again not once did he ask about his son. well anyway iv got an xmas card for ex mil, with pic of jake and i have written her a letter, just not sure i should send it. iv wrote that i don't want to recieve any more of these letters, that her son has made it perfectly clear to me that he doesn't want to be in jakes life, so giving him a xmas will only serve to confuse him in the future, and im not doing that to my son. also said that if she wanted to stay in contact with jake, she needed to make the effort (she had said in her letter that she wanted me to tell her about jake and send photos) as she knows my number etc, and that it was not up to me to stay in contact. i havent heard from them since they came to see jake 2 moths ago! sorry for the rant! do you think i should send it or just leave it? he is obviously just telling his mother what she wants to hear.