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FierceAngel
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so ill start from the beggining! oh has an aunt (his mums sis) who has a big house loves doing all the organising etc etc..
basically every year xmas birthdays easter everyone goes there..
its never been a problem as oh mum was single so her, oh and sil would go round there, oh nan and grandad go there too, oh uncle is married to a lady who has no other family in the uk they have a daughter who is 2...
with me so far!!!
well last xmas was the first xmas where my mum and step dad had split.. the presure was on us to go to the aunts as they do every year.. grandparents even played the could be our last xmas card!
so last xmas at 27 weeks pregnant we got up at 8am went straught to mil and spent 2 hours there having breekie and opening pressies.. we then went to oh dads house to see him and his wife and oh two other siblings...
then we came back to my mums at about 1pm spent 2 hours with my mum and brother and at 3.30pm oh got a sarky phone call asking if we were gonna come round to the aunts or not! so off we went and spent rest of day evening there...
there were many comments about how late we were blah blah and then about oh how are we all going to fit round the table next year with another high chair etc?!
so my mum and bro had xmas dinner alone
mum was ok said she would rather have us next year as first xmas with luisa.. on top of this my nan died at the end of jan so it was her last xmas and i didnt get to see her cos i just couldnt travel anymore that day
so on to this year!!!
we said in the new year tht this xmas the most important people to see luisa on xmas day would be her grandparents.. we also said we didnt want to be running around all day..
so it was sorted my mum, bro, mil, sil was coming to us for dinner...
my problem? the aunt stilll thinks we are going there
if it was you would you say something?
i know its gonna cause rows and im gonna be the bad one (if it wasnt for me etc) but mil and sil had said they didnt want to go last year anyway...
basically every year xmas birthdays easter everyone goes there..
its never been a problem as oh mum was single so her, oh and sil would go round there, oh nan and grandad go there too, oh uncle is married to a lady who has no other family in the uk they have a daughter who is 2...
with me so far!!!
well last xmas was the first xmas where my mum and step dad had split.. the presure was on us to go to the aunts as they do every year.. grandparents even played the could be our last xmas card!
so last xmas at 27 weeks pregnant we got up at 8am went straught to mil and spent 2 hours there having breekie and opening pressies.. we then went to oh dads house to see him and his wife and oh two other siblings...
then we came back to my mums at about 1pm spent 2 hours with my mum and brother and at 3.30pm oh got a sarky phone call asking if we were gonna come round to the aunts or not! so off we went and spent rest of day evening there...
there were many comments about how late we were blah blah and then about oh how are we all going to fit round the table next year with another high chair etc?!
so my mum and bro had xmas dinner alone
mum was ok said she would rather have us next year as first xmas with luisa.. on top of this my nan died at the end of jan so it was her last xmas and i didnt get to see her cos i just couldnt travel anymore that day
so on to this year!!!
we said in the new year tht this xmas the most important people to see luisa on xmas day would be her grandparents.. we also said we didnt want to be running around all day..
so it was sorted my mum, bro, mil, sil was coming to us for dinner...
my problem? the aunt stilll thinks we are going there
if it was you would you say something?
i know its gonna cause rows and im gonna be the bad one (if it wasnt for me etc) but mil and sil had said they didnt want to go last year anyway...