Expecting to miscarriage

[smas]

I am 10+ weeks pregnant and today I had it confirmed that there are two sacs but no embryo or heartbeat. I am due to go on holiday to cyprus in 7 days but since I am waiting to start miscarriaging, I wonder if it is a good idea or safe to go on holiday. Do you have any advice for me? Much appreciate your advice.

 

[LauraLoo1612]

I don't have any advise unfortunately, I've never miscarried. I want to send you my hugs though and say I am sorry for your loss.

 

[NewToAllThis]

I wouldn't wait hun as it can take weeks. I would recommend either ERPC or medical management which is tablets to bring it on.

My first missed miscarriage, baby measured 7 weeks and was discovered at 12 weeks and no sign of me miscarrying so I opted for ERPC which was quick and painless.

This time around I am still waiting for confirmation that it is an mmc.
I also have two sacs, both with babies in but one showed sign of growth last week so I have to wait a further week although I have now started cramping and spotting brown.

My heart goes out to you hun, so sorry for your loss.

If I were you, I would get it over with as soon as possible and use your holiday as relaxation and recuperation.

 

[WTBmyBFP]

It can take a while hon. So sorry for your loss. Some gals miscarry within days...I am currently on day six of my wait for a natural miscarriage and it sucks, but I'm not keen on surgeries that are not really needed. Don't feel bad, though, if you decide to do medical management or a d&c just remember both have a recovery time and you will likely still have the same pain and bleeding as if it was natural, only you get to chose when to do it.

Just make your decision based on what you need both physically and emotionally, and don't let anyone else tell you you "have to" handle it a certain way. Again, I'm so sorry, and just remember to give yourself a chance to grieve.

 

[smas]

Thank you so much for all your replies. It is very strengthening to read your words of encouragement. I have now decided to go for medical management and take the pill. And we have decided to postpone the holiday till december and go somewhere hot then. I will use september for dealing with this sad situation. We are celebrating our third anniversary on 11th october so I am planning on starting the medical management next week. I should be all fine by first week in october and we will do something special for our anniversary and take it as a new start.

I think like this is a good plan. I am only feeling petrified of what is ahead of me, when I take the pill. How am I going to feel, what pain will I be experiencing and how it is going to affect me when I see the blood and tissues and knowing that this is the little precious baby we wanted so much. I am very petrified of all emotions I am going to go through.

 

[newmrsg]

I am so sorry you have to go through all of this.... I had a natural mc so I have no idea what comes with medical management I just wanted to tell you I am thinking of you! As far as the emotional part of it... I think it’s dealt with differently by different people... It was honestly the worst day of my life... I had an idea that it was going to happen so emotionally I tried to prepare myself for that but not matter how much prep I thought I had it couldn't prepare me for the pain I went through and am still going through 4 weeks after I have this hole in my heart that will never mend for my lost babies I won't ever get to hold
This site is very supportive so you can find comfort here by venting or talking to people who know what you are feeling... But also you will need the support at home also! Make sure those loved ones close to you are there for you because you will need them...
Sending big hugs you way!