It's the...
Where are you going to find the money?
What if it leaks?
What if you don't use it?
What if you splash?
There's no room
I'm not cleaning it (mind you he has the opinion that birth is all blood and guts!)
All that water no way!
...He has this vision that birth is blood and gore and really I should be in a hospital where everything will be cleaned and he'll be handed and clean wrapped up baby and there'll be no mess to deal with at any point.
He wont be at the business end and people keep telling me he'll peek, he wont I know he wont, and don't even mention cord cutting!
When it comes to the pool he seems to think you need a football pitch to have one and that it'll be really messy that water will get everywhere and that would be bad.
I'm trying really hard to get him to see that a HB is the best option, there's no way he'll listen to the hypnotherapy CD's I'm getting so I've got to get to grips with that alone.
He wont watch any birth programs - I've recorded a really nice Homebirth Diaries and he wont watch it.
Ergh he frustrates me, he thinks there's still something 'wrong' with me because I still feel awful about the last labour and EMCS and wont make any attempt to try to understand that birth is something more important than a medical procedure to get through.
Such a typical bloke everything is black and white.
And the kit they send with it is even worse!!! I paid £15 for a heavy duty ground sheet, which is exactly the same as the cheap tarpaulines they sell in my local pound shop, I paid £12 for a digital waterproof thermometer, which again, is exactly the same as my local pound shop and takes a good 20 minutes to show a change in temperature, I paid £4 for a debris net, yep, you guessed it.. pound shop mini kitchen seive, even has the same 'kitchenwares' tag on it as the pound shop has, and is very slightly bigger than a tea strainer, and the hose and tap attachment are cheap garden ones from a shop called 'proper job' (similar to pound land).
I hope you can work something out honey. It would be nice to have a positive influence with you. Someone who shares your vision probably isn't delusional. You might be telling yourself that so you don't feel let down if you don't get the birth you deserve and know you could have. Talk to Heidi about the doula uk hardship fund honey xx
