So I just found out today that my first IVF has failed. I am 28 years old and my husband is 37. I don't have kids and he has 2 but he has had a vasectomy about 10 years ago so IVF was the best route for us. I was originally scared about doing the IVF process and didn't want to initially but I went on and did it anyway. For the 9-10 days of injections and medication I didn't like but it started to get easier as the days went on. Towards the end of injections I started to bruise and become sore.
The egg retrieval went good they retrieved 12 eggs and 10 were mature. However, afterwards I was a wreck. I was so darn sore and hurting for 3 days. The first day any move hurt me. The second day I was sore and still bloated but it wasn't with ever movement just some. Well the next day after the retrieval they call me and tell me that only one was fertilized. 1 out of 10??? I was devastated and almost started crying when I spoke with the lady. I didn't know what went wrong. I asked the nurse why and she didn't know. So later on in the day I get another phone call from the nurse stating that my doctor wanted to give me the option of a fresh day 3 transfer. I asked what was the benefits and she said some embryos do better in the uterus. I asked her if this would be what's best and she said I don't know I can't say. So I said ok I will do it what do I need to do, this was a Saturday afternoon. They wanted me to start taking more injections and about 5 different medications. I was so close to saying never mind just forget it. But I didn't I went and got the stuff and started taking it that day. That progesterone in oil intramuscular injection had my booty bruised every day to the point where it hurt for me to sit down.
Well Monday gets here and I go in for my fresh transfer. My doctor does a trial run then the real thing. Everything with the transfer went well, no pain. Until 3 days later I start having a sharp pain in my stomach, really bad heart burns, shortness of breath, and cramps here and there. So I contacted my nurse and to see if this was normal. They wanted me to come in for an ultrasound. So I went in that day only to find out that my ovaries were the size of a fist when they should have been the size of a thumb. I was in pain for 3 additional days. Well of course I still had some days to wait for the HCG test. Well now that I have took that test and I had a negative number I don't know what to do. With so much pain and discomfort that I went through and no frozen embryos I don't want to do IVF again!
What should I do???
Ugh so hurt and disappointed and can't stop crying!!!
The egg retrieval went good they retrieved 12 eggs and 10 were mature. However, afterwards I was a wreck. I was so darn sore and hurting for 3 days. The first day any move hurt me. The second day I was sore and still bloated but it wasn't with ever movement just some. Well the next day after the retrieval they call me and tell me that only one was fertilized. 1 out of 10??? I was devastated and almost started crying when I spoke with the lady. I didn't know what went wrong. I asked the nurse why and she didn't know. So later on in the day I get another phone call from the nurse stating that my doctor wanted to give me the option of a fresh day 3 transfer. I asked what was the benefits and she said some embryos do better in the uterus. I asked her if this would be what's best and she said I don't know I can't say. So I said ok I will do it what do I need to do, this was a Saturday afternoon. They wanted me to start taking more injections and about 5 different medications. I was so close to saying never mind just forget it. But I didn't I went and got the stuff and started taking it that day. That progesterone in oil intramuscular injection had my booty bruised every day to the point where it hurt for me to sit down.
Well Monday gets here and I go in for my fresh transfer. My doctor does a trial run then the real thing. Everything with the transfer went well, no pain. Until 3 days later I start having a sharp pain in my stomach, really bad heart burns, shortness of breath, and cramps here and there. So I contacted my nurse and to see if this was normal. They wanted me to come in for an ultrasound. So I went in that day only to find out that my ovaries were the size of a fist when they should have been the size of a thumb. I was in pain for 3 additional days. Well of course I still had some days to wait for the HCG test. Well now that I have took that test and I had a negative number I don't know what to do. With so much pain and discomfort that I went through and no frozen embryos I don't want to do IVF again!
What should I do???
Ugh so hurt and disappointed and can't stop crying!!!
We had 3 of them. 1 round clomid and 2 fresh cycles with own egg. That was heartbreak and miserable balancing between "what's going to happen next??" thoughts. Unfortunately no one knows what actually causes those failures. Though among the explanations are, poor quality of the embryo or genetic defects in the embryos. (Unfortunately, it cannot always be diagnosed). Or the presence of an unreceptive endometrium. It's far more important how our REs react on the results and what changes do make into treatment plans for further success. Wish all to come out of these issues as soon as possible 
