ok , my sister had a family xmas party last nightwe had a good time .. but... her livign room door was propped open so rthat peopel could get into the kitchen easily where she had a whole big table layed out with trays of food and stuff, the hall way between the kitchen and living room is where the stairs to upstairs are, so anyway several time Brody went wandering out there to have a look and explore which im fine with, but didnt want him climbing the stairs / playing on them alone, and didnt want him going through the kitchen cupboards or pulling food off the table ( all of which he was quite into doing) so if he went out there and i knew there was no one in there to watch him i would go to play with him out there / stand near the doorway so i could see him or go and bring him back into the living room area..... to me this seemed sensible, but after maybe the 3rd time i went out there i hear my uncle saying " oh , shes the kind of mother who if he fell over playing football she would shout at the coach for making him run ...." .... wtf ? annoyingly my mum pipes up " oh i think shes already like that at playgroup.." (she has never been to playgroup with us, although i have told her about 1 rude and violent little boy who cause trouble for a lot of people every week... but i just dont get it ? ) then almost everything i did it seemed he was making comments ( when he thought i couldnt hear) like i went out there another time and he says "oh there goes mummy to the rescue again , cant she leave the boy alone? ". he actually said to me directly " oh leave him hows he gonna learn not to tip the food on the floor if you dont let him do it, and then tell him off ?" to which i replied " he will learn because i am telling him not to do it, and explaining why, would you rather i let him ruin all the food just so i can tell him off afterwards ?" now when i went to get some food and left him with the others i came back 2 mins later and he was gone .... no one had even noticed him cross the whole room and leave , i found him in the upstairs bathroom playing with the tap ( they probably though he was following me i guess) now i dont wrap him up in cotton wool , but surely its not that OTT that i dont want him emptying kitchen cupboards / playing on stairs / pulling food trays off the table ? is it ? i spent half the night stressed out at my uncle and biting my tounge. i have always liked and respected my uncle (opinionated though he is) but now am dreading the idea of seeing him again at my aunts befrore newyear. (btw his grandson is a month younger and doesnt seem to be too into anything at the moment so i get that he obviously hasnt got to the point of having to run after a toddler yet) aside from my mums lack of want to stick up for me , i am so glad that my parents are Brodys grandparents and not my uncle and aunt, atleast they respect my right to do things my way even if they dont always agree. sorry for the rant, but was i being OTT ? do people jsut let their toddlers run around other peoples houses doing what they like without watching them ?