Bookwrmgal
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So I am almost through the 1st trimester with DHs and my first baby. I am a pretty private person and one not used to good things happening to me, so I have been extremely hesitant to share the news with people until we are out of the woods. DH had been bursting at the seams to tell his parents, so I agreed to tell them at 6weeks when we saw the HB on the ultrasound. We also agreed to tell DHs Aunt who is my MILs best friend (so she can talk to her about it) with the condition that no one else is to know.
I am estranged from my parents but emailed my father the news at 8.5 weeks, also saying that this is not known information and to not share it. I had no worries about that since my Father responded with interest in only continuing the disagreement that caused me to cut off contact 8 months ago.
Well my father told my mother (which I knew he would do and was fine with- keeps me from talking to my mother) and they proceeded to tell both of my siblings. I was angry because I was clear I didnt want the information out there until I was ready to share it. I only knew they told because my sister-in-law texted me. I told my mother in law and was clear at how upset and angry I was that the information was shared without my consent.
This morning my MIL emailed DH and I and mentioned she told one of her close friends. She knew I only allowed them to know because DH pleaded. She knew how upset I was my parents told my brother and sister and yet she proceeded to tell someone I hardly know, before close family and friends know. I feel angry and violated and just dont know what to do. I am someone who doesnt trust easily and I feel as though control was taken from me and this is a very big deal. DH emailed her back and she apologized but I just dont think she gets it. DH understands I am upset but thinks I am overreacting. Its possible but I cant help feeling this way. Has anyone else been in similar situation?
I am estranged from my parents but emailed my father the news at 8.5 weeks, also saying that this is not known information and to not share it. I had no worries about that since my Father responded with interest in only continuing the disagreement that caused me to cut off contact 8 months ago.
Well my father told my mother (which I knew he would do and was fine with- keeps me from talking to my mother) and they proceeded to tell both of my siblings. I was angry because I was clear I didnt want the information out there until I was ready to share it. I only knew they told because my sister-in-law texted me. I told my mother in law and was clear at how upset and angry I was that the information was shared without my consent.
This morning my MIL emailed DH and I and mentioned she told one of her close friends. She knew I only allowed them to know because DH pleaded. She knew how upset I was my parents told my brother and sister and yet she proceeded to tell someone I hardly know, before close family and friends know. I feel angry and violated and just dont know what to do. I am someone who doesnt trust easily and I feel as though control was taken from me and this is a very big deal. DH emailed her back and she apologized but I just dont think she gets it. DH understands I am upset but thinks I am overreacting. Its possible but I cant help feeling this way. Has anyone else been in similar situation?