Oh the joys or families, about 3 weeks ago now we found out that my Bil and his wife have split up. Apparently she found out that he had slept with someone else but the twist is that she is 3 months preg with his child. Ok he has done wrong and openly admits this and is in one hell of a state. His wife's parents hate him and had only begun to like him so now they want to do painful things to him. They both say that they still love each other but just can be toghether at the moment, but her parents have now rented or bought a flat for her to stay in, we all agree that they shouldnt have done this as it means in stead of facing things and sorting things out they have given her the easy option of getting out of things. I can understand that they are both confused as to what they want, but last night it came out that it isnt the first time he has done it, my hubby thinks that she cant have been supporting him other wise he wouldnt have looked else where. But to be honest i am finding it hard to be sympathetic obviuosly i dont know the full facts and never will but to cheat 3 times is wrong and i wonder to hell why on earth they tried for a baby if they were having problems. She was supposed to move out this weekend so he made himself scarce for afew hours then when he came back she hadnt moved out at all and said they would so it on sunday, how cruel. so he stayed whilst she moved out yesterday (she hasnt taken all her stuff) she told him that she would be better off if he was dead and there was no way he was going to see his kid when it was born. (He has access to guns) one min she says he is her hubby, then ex hubby then on a split. I dont think either of them know whats going - he is in councilling, my Mil is a mess trying to support him, my hubby feels so guilty as he is at the other end of the country but spends about an hour a day on the phone to his bawling brother, I'm just feeling drained and depressed My BIL feels he can't talk to me or even come and stay with us because we have our son and it upsets him. Its all so hard and very depressing... just wanted to rant as i can't to hubby as he is dealing with enough already. Has any one else experienced or been through this?