Fear of baby/toddler groups?!

[Hotcrossbuns]

Hello Everyone,
I'm just not sure it it's me or is anyone else has a same feeling, but even to think about to go to toddler groups make me feel anxious...
My DD is 11 month old, lovely, contented baby. We are attending a sing and sign class on Thursdays, she is with Nanny on Fridays, and we often meet w my friend who has a similar age boy, so we do try to have an active life. We live in a tiny village where everyone knows everyone (almost), and our family is relatively new here.(we moved here 2 years ago) Is a group of mums, who are meeting up almost everyday, having lunches together, taking the babies to the soft play area, baby group etc... I think it's not healthy, and I can't do this,but I still feel I should take her to at least once a week, despite the fact I've tried it once or twice, but Ive found it so boring, as they were constantly talked about each other (the ones who wasn't there on that day)and about their own kids, but nothing else. I'm a "thinker"in general, I like politics, books, I've got a degree (not as it means anything, but I love knowledge) but most of this mums never left the village, but their so pretentious, having b.day parties for their 1 year old and inviting 60 people, but has no job, claiming benefit. I'm not saying is anything wrong w them, I just feel it's not me... Shall I make myself go or is it normal to feel, is just not for me? All answers would be appreciated. Thanks.

 

[princesscutex]

my daughter is nearly 7 months and i take her to a baby group, baby massage, baby signing and she loves it and so do i. i guess it depends on the activities you do there some groups are more boring than others just try some different ones x

 

[3011busyyear]

I'd say if you've only been once or twice then you definitely need to go more. They could be 'thinkers' too once you get to know them. They may not be your bestest buddies but you never know when you may need someone to hand to pick up your child from school in an emergency or if you need to leave them with someone in the future. It's always good to have a network of people who understand what having a child involves.

 

[XJessicaX]

Yeah...I kinda feel the same. Not anxious as such, but end up feeling a bit frustrated that in my area the nearest place with baby groups is in a rather grim part of town and MOST mothers there have limited conversational skills and spend the majority of time outside in a cloud of smoke usually leaving just myself inside lol.
I have a super busy week most weeks, I do have lots of friends with babies so its not as if my LO is lacking social meets, but I would like to take her out (walk to) somewhere local and she can use some of the play equipment as she is turning into quite a speedy climber/crawler. I dislike the competitiveness of some mothers there and so I haven't gone again. I now drive out and take LO to a better centre where the mums are more 'me'...yes I know its about the baby having fun, but its also about finding appropriate friends for her..which sounds REALLY snobby but ahh well, not going to lie!

Can you not drive out and find a better centre?

 

[stouffer]

Good for you for trying. I can't bring myself to go to any of those things but my daughter does still socialise with family and friend's babies. I would still like to get out more but I feel a bit awkward about it all.

It sounds like you want to make it work so you'll probably need to persist. Is there anything on in the nearest town you could try?

 

[Hotcrossbuns]

Yes, I suppose I could drive and take her somewhere else.
I just don't like the idea of the local women chatting about our life. (I think they have nothing else to do) yes...I found myself a bit snobby too sometimes, but I like it.))

 

[Hotcrossbuns]

I was thinking to try other places,i might will. We thinning about moving anyway....