Fed up of people's insensitive comments!!

[Mrs.Steer]

I gained a lot of weight during pregnancy, I was huuge! Before coming pregnant I was size 8-10 I am now 16-18. I still haven't lost my baby weight yet, and I need to lose about 3-4 stone to be back to how I was.

I feel crappy enough about this as it is, but on my travels out and about since having LO I have now had like 5 or 6 comments from various people that have reduced to me to tears and deperession. The first was "I thought you'd have had the baby by now, it must be due really soon", followed by "when's the big day?" and "not long now". I mean some of these people obviously saw me when I was heavily pregnant, and yes whilst I am still big am certainly smaller than I was then!!

It has destoyed my confidence and makes me want to avoid going out so i dont get anymore comments form people thinking I look 9 months pregnant!

Why cant people think before they speak?? It really hurts me, and I hate having to say I've had the baby. I feel like getting a t-shirt with that printed on so people dont ask anymore!!

 

[Eskimobabys]

how rude! im sorry

 

[Dragonfly]

I know I have been here before. After William I looked pregnant still and I hung over all my trousers. My mum was the worst for insults. Its only now I feel slightly better as I am preg again and least can say I am pregnany without getting looked at. I actually bust one of my bike jackets my belly was so big after. Never lost any of it in the whole year after william, wouldnt shift. I think celebs make it unrealistic for mums, loosing weight in a matter of weeks where as the rest of us struggle to bring up kids and forget ourselfs. It does bring you down though without even anyone being ignorant. I had my mum insulting my weight when I was 10 weeks preg, regretting how I didnt look like my 6ft tall slender teenage body sister which I would never look like as I am small and curvy.

I really think some poeple should be allowed to staple their mouths shut. Apparently to my mum its not being insulting its passing a remark. Humm. We dont speak any more over her pass remarkable mouth.

 

[Pessimistic]

I know I have been here before. After William I looked pregnant still and I hung over all my trousers. My mum was the worst for insults. Its only now I feel slightly better as I am preg again and least can say I am pregnany without getting looked at. I actually bust one of my bike jackets my belly was so big after. Never lost any of it in the whole year after william, wouldnt shift. I think celebs make it unrealistic for mums, loosing weight in a matter of weeks where as the rest of us struggle to bring up kids and forget ourselfs. It does bring you down though without even anyone being ignorant. I had my mum insulting my weight when I was 10 weeks preg, regretting how I didnt look like my 6ft tall slender teenage body sister which I would never look like as I am small and curvy.

I really think some poeple should be allowed to staple their mouths shut. Apparently to my mum its not being insulting its passing a remark. Humm. We dont speak any more over her pass remarkable mouth.

^^ Totally agree with this.

Those comments are HARSH!
I haven't lost all mine and my lo is over a year now! I actually eat less and move more than what I used to pre-pregnancy for god sake!
These Celebrities you see I watched a programme on them, a lot of them have c-sections and have their tummy tucked while at it. Others dump their lo on a nanny and are exercising and dieting 24/7. It's just not realistic.
A doctor on the same programme said it takes on average 8 months to a year to shift off the baby weight. Don't worry, enjoy your baby!

 

[Dragonfly]

someone said it 19 months till body returned to normal after a baby, dont know if thats weight loose someone wrote that on my facebook just after I had william .

 

[bambino156]

I know I have been here before. After William I looked pregnant still and I hung over all my trousers. My mum was the worst for insults. Its only now I feel slightly better as I am preg again and least can say I am pregnany without getting looked at. I actually bust one of my bike jackets my belly was so big after. Never lost any of it in the whole year after william, wouldnt shift. I think celebs make it unrealistic for mums, loosing weight in a matter of weeks where as the rest of us struggle to bring up kids and forget ourselfs. It does bring you down though without even anyone being ignorant. I had my mum insulting my weight when I was 10 weeks preg, regretting how I didnt look like my 6ft tall slender teenage body sister which I would never look like as I am small and curvy.

I really think some poeple should be allowed to staple their mouths shut. Apparently to my mum its not being insulting its passing a remark. Humm. We dont speak any more over her pass remarkable mouth.

Ditto, my mum is the same. I reckon they think they can say what they want because they're your mum, I think it actually hurts more than if a stranger passed comment.

 

[littleone2010]

Oh hun, people are STUPID. Sorry but it has to be said, people dont look at the bigger picture just what they think is in front of them, they shouldnt comment on your size pregnant or not.. it really does annoy me.. I dont see how people think it is OK to talk about your appearance randomly because we were pregnany then had a baby, I wouldnt do it to anyone..we just want to be left alone! Lol sorry you can see I have been effected by this too.. you will lose the weight in YOUR OWN TIME, when you feel ready.
Enjoy your time with your baby as it doesnt last for long and do whatever makes you happy, forget about insensitive people... and if you cant, like me, I tell them to think before they speak otherwise you may not give them the same grace! Lol. Fell better soon xxx

 

[pinktaffy]

i know how u feel hun xx. i was a verry slim size 8. now im in a 14 and i dont mind im quite happy i know ive just had a baby and im not gonna just be thin over night.
but aslong as people just stop reminding me im not as thin as i was grr.
firstly a few weeks ago i was buying size 3 nappys and i got milk and cartnos and the lady at the till said u getting all ready for when baby arives and my mil snapped at her and said she has had the baby think b4 u speak. but i just felt worse.
then 2 days ago my sisters terrible horrible nuisance neighbor called me a fat tw*t for no reason as i was calling at my sisters.
its so horrible how nasty people can be take no nottice hun xx i know its easyer said than done. but at the end of the day weve just had babys were not gonna be skinny it takes time xx

 

[charlottefran]

I know exactly what you mean just written simular post not about weight just about people!!!! big hugs x x x

 

[mrsthomas623]

Oh I feel you hun! I am not a small girl by any means and I did well during pregnancy.. only gained 10 lbs during the whole 9 months. The first week after having LO I was 8lbs under my pre-pregnancy weight... I was pumped! Fast forward to LO being 3 months and I now weigh more that I did at 9 months pregnant!!! Being a SAHM I eat all the time and now its even easier to put on weight than before... it sucks!!

I try to not go out with out LO EVER because I am afraid someone might ask if I am pregnant!

 

[Mrs.Steer]

thanks everyone, glad i am not alone, i hate it that i am comparing my size to other mothers i see with young babies and feel really annoyed with myself for over indulging when i was pregnant now, if I could turn back the clock...

 

[naganta]

I was 148lbs and size 7 pre preg. now, i am 174lbs and size 11/12. I could fit into my size 7 pants at 8 months pregnant (couldnt button them up due to bump though) and now i cant get them past my bum. I am not very large at all...I have always weighed heavy for my size... I look a lot better than a bunch of friends with no kids, but i do have a tiny but of still loose skin on the belly, so when i wear pants that are anywhere near tight around the waist, i get a tiny bulge. All I get is "i cant believe you are preggers already, didnt give yourself a break did ya"....Any my mom, who is 3 sizes bigger than me, is always bugging me to lose my weight, and that my man will not stay with me if i dont lose it. my man is happy with me tyvm.

some people just dont care, and obv forget what they gelt like at this point. I get so angry, but what can we do? Spend less time with our LOs o workout several hours a day? no thanks, I will be chubby as sacrifice for the time i get with my LO

 

[Vici]

It is horrible, I agree hun, but your post could also do just the same to someone else. I was a size 16 before I was pregnant (huuuuuge as you put it) but now i'm a 20 - which i'm not fussed about! Reading your post about how huge a 16 is could make some people feel exactly the same as you feel about not being a size 10! xx

 

[Dragonfly]

Are you sure where not legally allowed to slap someone who speaks out of turn while pregnant and like a maternity leave after where insults can still hurt? can we get a partition to number 10? be a lot of quiet woman about.

 

[Mrs.Steer]

It is horrible, I agree hun, but your post could also do just the same to someone else. I was a size 16 before I was pregnant (huuuuuge as you put it) but now i'm a 20 - which i'm not fussed about! Reading your post about how huge a 16 is could make some people feel exactly the same as you feel about not being a size 10! xx

I'm sorry i certainly didnt mean it like that. I said I am a size 16-18 now but was huuuge when i was heavily pregnant not now. I needed a growth scan towards the end ecause I was measuring far too big. Its other peoples comments that have made me feel that being the size i am now is huge. I certainly dont think being a size 16-18 is big enough for people to assume you are 9 months pregnant but other people have said so, and it is this is what upsets me!

Also, women of different builds carry sizes differently. I am a small 5"2 frame so being a size 16-18 would look bigger on me than someone with a taller larger frame. And yes, I probably wouldnt be as fussed if I was only a size or two bigger than I was before pregnancy as you are, but I am now wearing clothes 5 sizes bigger so yes it would be harder for me to adjust to being this size than if I had have been bigger before pregancy.

 

[Vici]

I wasn't having a go or saying you shouldn't feel hurt hun - just that people may not always mean them as you take them