Feel like I'm the only pregnant woman in the world, who CAN'T get any :(

[JaymeeBee]

I'm sooooooooo frustrated with my OH he refuses to touch me, says he's kind of turned off by my pregnant body. He even told me what he's getting me for Christmas...

an Eliptical...guess I got the hint there He's always bugging me to make sure I start working out right away after baby, so I don't get "flabby".

He has been locking himself in our bedroom more often for his "alone time", which makes me feel undesirable and useless to him sexually. i tried confronting him, but he doesn't understand what the big deal is.

Honestly I feel like I'm pregnant and single and living with some random guy, who doesn't notice me anymore.

Sorry for the rant, but as time goes on...I feel more and more alone.

 

[rabbitswife10]

awe honey i am so sorry i really dont have any wonderful advice but i hope he gets his head out of his arse soon....

 

[bekki_d18]

Oh hun, sorry you feel like this. And the fact he is buying you that for xmas is a bummer. Have you mentioned about wanting to lose the weight after the baby? He might think he is doing yo a favour and just going about the wrong way. Believe me your not the only women not getting any.

 

[smam]

Your poor thing. I'm not surprised you feel the way you do, I would be down right insulted if my OH bugged me to be working out after baby! You have enough to deal with and should be spending time bonding and cooing over your mewborn, not slogging away on a treadmill etc! Who does he think he is?!

My OH doesn't really touch me very often, he's scared he'll hurt the baby :rollseyes: so I have to pounce on him. I would sit your OH down and tell him how you are feeling and hide the key/break lock to the bedroom lol! Big hugs x

 

[OrangeJuice]

Awwrr hun i know how u feel

My OH never had "alone time" before I was pregnant, we would always be sexual with eachother and ensure both our needs were met so neither of us ever needed "alone time", until about 2 weeks ago he confessed that when I go out (shopping/bank/dinner with friends/family) he has what he calls a "clear out" he says he doesnt use any porn, or think about anything sexual buh how am I suppose to believe that when hes doing such a sexual thing. ALSO I am not the one saying us being sexual is off the cards its him who doesnt want to so I now feel like crap!!

Tbh what I do, is I have my own "alone time" now.. I think its better tbh, I will never tell him that, and I will probably never tell him I do it, buh its such a relief and makes me feel better, so try get ur own "alone time".. Its also supposed to help bring on labour so woop woop if he ever does catch me I have an excuse!!

Buh dont let him bring u down, remember ur carrying his child and ur body is the way it is as a sacrifice for him, if he cant appreciate that he needs a kick up the back side!! And after the baby is born will he be watching over bubs while u go to the ggym and get toned for him, or does he expect u to become wonder woman all of a sudden and be an amazing partner, mum and sex god??

Do what makes u happy, because if ur not happy with urself how can anyone else be??

 

[JaymeeBee]

Thanks ladies!

I'm just so sick of crying about this...ugh men, why can't they just think LIKE US (women) lol.

 

[KatieLynn]

Hey hun. I'm so sorry to hear that! I don't have much advice for your situation, except to tell him exactly how you feel and be blunt about it! But as we all know trying to tell men your feelings doesn't really get you far! I mean i have a wonderful OH, however he always makes me feel like i don't take care of myself because i hate getting dressed and ready for the day, i get out the shower and just sit there because nothing fits, and it's frustrating, but when i try to tell my feelings it's like beating a dead horse So just keep your head up, and screw your eliptical machine because your body will naturally do what it has to do to get back down to its size pre-pregnancy!!

Hugs & Belly Rubs

 

[FlatShoes]

I only got some after the whole 'I find my ex attractive' incident.

I reckon it freaks men out - i've gone from being a filthy, drunk minx to a sensible, drunk mummy.

No waonder he isn't as keen to put out! haha

Don't worry babes, totally normal - I suggest marital rape. hehe

 

[EmzyJA]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

 

[JaymeeBee]

I only got some after the whole 'I find my ex attractive' incident.

I reckon it freaks men out - i've gone from being a filthy, drunk minx to a sensible, drunk mummy.

No waonder he isn't as keen to put out! haha

Don't worry babes, totally normal - I suggest marital rape. hehe

I'm so big and heavy I doubt I would be able to go through with a marital rape lol. In fact I'm getting winded just thinking about it.

 

[storm4mozza]

hope things improve for u soon x

 

[JaymeeBee]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

My Nicholas is the same! He says my head looks like a pumpkin since becoming pregnant. If he catches me getting dressed he makes this weird face and then acts like a stranger accidentally walking in on someone in a dressing room.

The things our men are saying (and in my case doing) are not good for our self esteem

 

[ARouge]

My husband isn't attracted to a pregnant body either...but I'd be terribly offended if he locked himself in our bedroom for alone time! My husband doesn't say anything, I can just tell b/c usually he is all over me but when I am pregnant he keeps his hands to himself. It's just a personal preference, big bellies aren't his thing and he was like that last time too.

 

[EmzyJA]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

My Nicholas is the same! He says my head looks like a pumpkin since becoming pregnant. If he catches me getting dressed he makes this weird face and then acts like a stranger accidentally walking in on someone in a dressing room.

The things our men are saying (and in my case doing) are not good for our self esteem

aww hun thats not nice. and no it's not doing much at all for our self esteems at all.

i sometimes have to ask him to touch my bump so he can feel her kicking but he wont touch it very often.

its quite strange coz before my bump appeared he used to bang on about the fact that i had litterally no bump for ages. x

 

[JaymeeBee]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

My Nicholas is the same! He says my head looks like a pumpkin since becoming pregnant. If he catches me getting dressed he makes this weird face and then acts like a stranger accidentally walking in on someone in a dressing room.

The things our men are saying (and in my case doing) are not good for our self esteem

aww hun thats not nice. and no it's not doing much at all for our self esteems at all.

i sometimes have to ask him to touch my bump so he can feel her kicking but he wont touch it very often.

its quite strange coz before my bump appeared he used to bang on about the fact that i had litterally no bump for ages. x

OMG Em,

My OH is like that too! I used to have to literally beg him to touch my belly when Peyton would kick. He'll do it every now and then, when he can tell I'm upset about her condition, but he never seems to do it when she is super active. My DD on the other hand loves to feel her baby sister's kicks.

Sometimes I cry about it, cuz when I was pregnant with my first DD I had no one to share her kicks with and wished I did. Then when I got pregnant this time I was initially excited at the thought I would have someone to share the experience with...how WRONG I was

 

[greeneyes27]

Hey hun,

For a start off, I would tell him he can sod off with your christmas present - unless you actually want one!! How insensitive!! Bloody men hey?! How to give someone a complex.

This subject actually interests me a lot. I was chatting to my boss the other day who is a lovely guy and he said that when his wife was pregnant he found it really hard. He just didn't fancy her in the same way that he used to. He found that his perception of her changed and the whole 9 mnths was a bit dry in the sack... He said he tried but he couldn't reconcile the sexual side of her with the new Mother role. By all accounts it's all now back to normal....

Also, I have found that with me it's my libido thats suffered. I normally adore sex but at the moment I find the thought of it a bit hard work. For some reason, prob hormones, I feel a bit dry and it makes me feel weird. So I've got my OH pestering me for naughties and I don't want it...

I guess all I'm trying to say is that pregnancy affects everyone different. It does sound like your chap is not being very sensitive though... Sending lots of hugs xxxx

 

[minkymoo]

You poor ladies.

I am happy to not be getting any so can't sympathise there but some of your gentlemen folk are out of order. Ok, if they're honest enough to admit that the pregnant form doesn't turn them on or frightens them then it really is a shame as men need that visual turn on to, er, enable performance. HOWEVER, insulting your bodies and looks is out and out disrespectful and if 'alone time' is required it should be done discreetly and certainly not when you're around and locked out of the room so you know exactly what is going on!!

I suggest you make a point of having a good old laugh at their bodies and flacid men tails next time they are bathing or dressing, they might understand how you feel then. Arseholes.

I know my OH has alone time but have no idea when. Must admit, I've had a bit of alone time myself because I still get the urge now and then, I just don't want full .

 

[EmzyJA]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

My Nicholas is the same! He says my head looks like a pumpkin since becoming pregnant. If he catches me getting dressed he makes this weird face and then acts like a stranger accidentally walking in on someone in a dressing room.

The things our men are saying (and in my case doing) are not good for our self esteem

aww hun thats not nice. and no it's not doing much at all for our self esteems at all.

i sometimes have to ask him to touch my bump so he can feel her kicking but he wont touch it very often.

its quite strange coz before my bump appeared he used to bang on about the fact that i had litterally no bump for ages. x

OMG Em,

My OH is like that too! I used to have to literally beg him to touch my belly when Peyton would kick. He'll do it every now and then, when he can tell I'm upset about her condition, but he never seems to do it when she is super active. My DD on the other hand loves to feel her baby sister's kicks.

Sometimes I cry about it, cuz when I was pregnant with my first DD I had no one to share her kicks with and wished I did. Then when I got pregnant this time I was initially excited at the thought I would have someone to share the experience with...how WRONG I was

aww hun bless ya. i just wanna give you a big squishy hug!!!

maybe its just a psychological thing that they just find it strange? i dont know. i worry that he's not gonna 'connect' with her, so to speak. but maybe it'll happen once they're born. i know that sometimes thats the case.

but i know what you mean, it defo isnt as i thought it was gonna be. he hasnt had much of an input into this pregnancy at all, even though it was planned.

my brother is having a baby with his girlfriend and he seems to complete opposit. he goes to the shop for her when she wants something, he helps her with housework, and he's so excited about being a dad, he even said he's carry the baby and give birth if he could so she wouldnt have to go through the pain, my hubbi wouldnt never do or say those things he's poo!!! x

 

[JaymeeBee]

You poor ladies.

I am happy to not be getting any so can't sympathise there but some of your gentlemen folk are out of order. Ok, if they're honest enough to admit that the pregnant form doesn't turn them on or frightens them then it really is a shame as men need that visual turn on to, er, enable performance. HOWEVER, insulting your bodies and looks is out and out disrespectful and if 'alone time' is required it should be done discreetly and certainly not when you're around and locked out of the room so you know exactly what is going on!!

I suggest you make a point of having a good old laugh at their bodies and flacid men tails next time they are bathing or dressing, they might understand how you feel then. Arseholes.

I know my OH has alone time but have no idea when. Must admit, I've had a bit of alone time myself because I still get the urge now and then, I just don't want full .

I don't think I'm brave enough to try the laughing at his bits part though, but it would be funny.

 

[minkymoo]

You poor ladies.

I am happy to not be getting any so can't sympathise there but some of your gentlemen folk are out of order. Ok, if they're honest enough to admit that the pregnant form doesn't turn them on or frightens them then it really is a shame as men need that visual turn on to, er, enable performance. HOWEVER, insulting your bodies and looks is out and out disrespectful and if 'alone time' is required it should be done discreetly and certainly not when you're around and locked out of the room so you know exactly what is going on!!

I suggest you make a point of having a good old laugh at their bodies and flacid men tails next time they are bathing or dressing, they might understand how you feel then. Arseholes.

I know my OH has alone time but have no idea when. Must admit, I've had a bit of alone time myself because I still get the urge now and then, I just don't want full .

I don't think I'm brave enough to try the laughing at his bits part though, but it would be funny.

Just pull the face he does to you then, fair is fair

If he asks what the face was for just deny all knowledge and then do the same next time.