Feel like my life is on hold... just waiting

Discussion in 'Trying To Conceive' started by Periwinkle, Jan 23, 2011.

  1. Periwinkle

    Periwinkle Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jan 3, 2011
    Messages:
    1,935
    Likes Received:
    0
    Does anyone else feel like they're just waiting for their life to restart? I'm looking to the future so much at the moment. I just want to have my baby and get on with our lives, to the point that day to day life at the moment just seems so mundane that I can barely be bothered to make an effort with it.
     
  2. ebony2010

    ebony2010 Pregnant with #2

    Joined:
    Nov 5, 2010
    Messages:
    15,806
    Likes Received:
    0
    Absolutely... each month just revolves around where I am in my cycle and when I'll ovulate etc.. I'm sick to the back teeth of poas :brat:

    I don't feel like I can really relax till I get that :bfp: x
     
  3. EllieNation

    EllieNation Mother of 2

    Joined:
    Jan 22, 2011
    Messages:
    658
    Likes Received:
    0
    Absolutely know how you feel.

    I don't want to book a holiday, or make any mid to long term plans, because I just don't know if and when that BFP will find me.

    It's like being in limbo
     
  4. yellowbell

    yellowbell TTC #2

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2010
    Messages:
    828
    Likes Received:
    0
    dear ladies,

    I feel exactly the same! That my life seem like it's on hold.
    I am so ready to be a mother and yet it hasn't happened.

    I am trying though to not feel like this..I count my blessings so I could have motivation on everyday life.

    :hug: to all of you
     
  5. SpudsMama

    SpudsMama New Mummy!

    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2011
    Messages:
    7,681
    Likes Received:
    0
    I can relate completely to that...

    Every time a new plan is made for something, like a family get together or something at work I automatically try to figure out how many weeks I'd be at that time if I were pregnant. I'm constantly looking at baby things, even bought some stuff in the new year sales which I'm not happy with myself for :blush:

    I'm always thinking about what the other little kids in my life (friend's children and young cousins) would think about having another LO to play with... I can't stop.

    And when I see that BFN or when AF shows up it feels like it's never going to happen for me :(

    BUT I know it will and I've just got to be patient (which I'm not good at lol!)

    Baby dust to everyone :) xx
     
  6. scerena

    scerena Cautiously Expecting #1

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2010
    Messages:
    12,799
    Likes Received:
    1
    I feel exactly the same...
    All my friends have had children or are pregnant lately I just feel like my time is never coming :( It is so frustrating, especially as some people arent even trying or dont really want to be pregnant but are... But our time will come and our babies will be so special to us
    when people say 'be patient' or 'dnt think about it and it will happen' they just simply do not understand especially when you are trying to conceive your first baby as we have not yet been blessed,
    but good luck to all of you xxx
     
  7. nickyjl

    nickyjl Nervously Pregnant!

    Joined:
    Dec 14, 2010
    Messages:
    132
    Likes Received:
    0
    Totally know how you feel.

    I want to change jobs but I feel like I can't just in case I'm pregnant but it could be ages so I should just get on with it.

    I'm in my TWW now and all I can think about is if I'm not pregnant when can I try again. How on earth do we just get on with our lives???

    I have a great life and a wonderful fiance but I feel like I'm not really making the most of things as TTC is ALWAYS on my mind. :shrug:
     
  8. DMG83

    DMG83 Mum to 1 beautiful girl

    Joined:
    Dec 22, 2010
    Messages:
    5,937
    Likes Received:
    0
    i'm the same too! really want to book a holiday to italy but just can't "just in case" and also can't look to change jobs or anything either because of maternity pay!

    And my year is now passing in cycles instead of months!! it's ridiculous! I just feel like as soon as we get our :bfp: we can start to make plans and sort out the spare room and book a holiday for my second trimester!! :brat:
     
  9. GettingBroody

    GettingBroody 😊 Mum 😊

    Joined:
    Oct 30, 2010
    Messages:
    3,091
    Likes Received:
    0
    This is totally me at the moment!!
     
  10. Traskey

    Traskey New twin mummy

    Joined:
    Jan 13, 2011
    Messages:
    11,220
    Likes Received:
    0
    Count me in on this one. We have put holidays on hold as we don't know what will be happening with doctors appointments etc. I also want to change my job but don't want to lose out on maternity pay if we do eventually conceive, but all this waiting is driving me nuts! It just feels like so much of my life is on hold :(
     
  11. yellowbell

    yellowbell TTC #2

    Joined:
    Dec 5, 2010
    Messages:
    828
    Likes Received:
    0
    I had the same dilemma too!
    I was already stressed with my job but I was trying to hold on because it has maternity benefits. But up to now I'm still not pregnant and I realized that with the stress I was getting from this job, it might be actually be even contributing to my not conceiving.
    So finally, with my husband's support, I decided to quit my job.
     
  12. WTT09

    WTT09 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2009
    Messages:
    72
    Likes Received:
    0
    same here :(

    It just feels like it will never happen...then I turn on Facebook and feel so much worse as people vowed never to have kids are getting pregnant :(

    I can't even look at FB these days....as much as I am happy for them, I really am I just can't bring myself to not feel jealous or emotional :cry:

    I don't do dates anymore I do CD1 CD2 or DPO1 DPO2... its not January or February its Cycle #15 or Cycle #16 :(

    I no longer drink alcohol but eat honey....what is wrong with me?? :blush:
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice