Feel so disappointed and let down! :( - Rather large vent!

[Buddysmum89]

Ughh!..Im probably being stupid over nothing but i just cant help but feel so disappointed and let down by my so called friends..I told myself i wouldn't get disappointed but its easier said than done!!

So my son's 1st birthday party is tomorrow, and my guest list has been dwindling all week! ..Out of 6 people who we're coming we're now down to 3!..My guest list has halved in a matter of days!!, i just feel so crap about it as most of the guest list we're my closest friends who have known Seb' and me since I was pregnant with him..I invited them because i haven't seen them in ages and it would of been great for them to see how much Seb' has grown and of course for a good catch up!

I get it, they probably had much more important stuff going on rather than to attend a kids party!..But i just cant help but feel disheartened..I mean what the hells the point in holding a birthday party for 3 people?..My poor parents would have spent a fortune on food and really gone over the the top (They love parties lol!)..And just thinking that half of that food will either be wasted or thrown away which really upsets me and also angers me as im against food wasting!!

Tomorrows going to be such a boring day for me, OH's 2 closest friends are coming and then theres only 1 of mine coming..I haven't really seen eye to eye with his friends for a few months so im going to be left feeling really awkward!!

Alas, as long as Seb' has a good day and isn't too bored then i guess it should be okay!..

Im probably worlds stupidest person getting this worked up over a party but...I dunno'..I guess im sensitive!

 

[lizzywiz]

aw, I'm sorry.

Try not to take it personally- even after having a baby I still don't want to go to kids' b-day parties. They probably don't realize that it would be a chance to catch up.

Sorry, not the most helpful post, just wanted you to know I don't think you are nuts to be hurt .

 

[zoe6660]

Just enjoy it with u little one, Bugga everyone else lol x

 

[Indi84]

why don't you invite some other friends so the food didn't go to waste? then you feel happier. my friends don't mind being invited places on the day just ask if they fancy popping over.

 

[Buddysmum89]

Because im a loner, i dont really have that many friends ..Only the ones i went to college with..Ahhh, well im sure my dad will make good use of that food by taking it to work for his dinner

 

[Indi84]

ooh ok, we're all different! I'm so used to being part of a large 20+ group of friends I forget other people don't like that! also i met my dh through them so we have the same friends! I hope you have a lovely time, I'd of come if you were close lol, i love a party and your little one will be so excited!

 

[lch28]

Aww hun i dont have many friends either and i know how you feel. I invited my only three sorta friends to my baby shower and none of them showed. I was pregnant and very sad! I feel bad sometimes bc i dont know any moms and i worry jonathan wont have friends till school!

 

[Buddysmum89]

Im really weird in the sense of i don't have many friends as large numbers of new people make me feel really nervous ...

I do have a few friends ive known for years but they've even failed to respond so i might as well resign to the fact that ill probably be in a corner on my own tomorrow drowning my sorrow in chocolate cake

 

[kitabird]

I'm really sensitive about stuff like that too. Hope you're feeling better about it today and enjoy your son's birthday x

 

[greenbeans12]

This happens every time I have a birthday party for my daughter and it makes me so angry! People are so unreliable and tend to cancel at the last minute. I sent out invited a month before her party and everyone swore they were coming but the end result was out of 30+ people we had 10 show up.

I don't get why people do that. I personally always go to parties if I am invited and usually cancel plans so I can go.

 

[Scottish mum]

The sods!!

I know how you feel. I've a few close friends that are still around but lost a good friend when I had my lo she had one too so don't see her and I was disapointed too when ever anything was planned she would make excuses not to go!!

Enjoy the day for your lo he's only one once! It's your friends that are missing out x

 

[Scottish mum]

Sorry I think you should try go to a baby group or something I met lots of mums there one in particular I'm close with. X

 

[fingers_cross]

do u go to any groups? any other friends or family with babies? invite them. im the same with friends and really only have 2 close friends (i like it that way though) but quite a lot of acquaintances but ive already thought about the fact that id have no1 at my sons 1st bday lol. but oh well!x

 

[schnoogles]

I know exactly how you feel, I through my son a huge christening, it cost a fortune, and soooo many people let is down, even really close friends and family. We ended up with loads of food going to waste. I was gutted the day before. But I still had fun in the day.
I guess I was excited to have a chance to show my boy off, I understand that christenings aren't that exciting. Sometimes people really suck!

 

[beth_terri]

For my eldest sons first birthday I didn't have any of my own friends turn up, instead my mums friends with babies the same age came lol. There wasnt many people there other than a few of them and family.

For my youngest sons first next month were going to a big play area and then for a meal. No friends are coming just us.

Then the following weekend when its my eldests 4th birthday he's having a party with all his school friends and ill see if one or 2 of my friends with littlies want to come for Rory. Its better when kids start nursery/school as your never short of guests!

 

[Tess.ie]

I can imagine how disappointing that must be, I hate having any sort of party cos I don't think people will come!!! My oh hates childrens parties and I have to force him to go to his nieces and nephews. I always go, I love parties, and also I know how much I would want people to come to a party for Chloe.

But just try to think of your lo. Will your son notice or care who is there? Not likely, he will just be delighted with presents (or the wrapping and boxes!) and the cake and the candles and the party food and seeing his grandparents and how excited you are for him. When he gets a bit older he will have loads of friends his own age who will all turn up, no child refuses a party invite

 

[cupcaker]

I would feel the same, but I'm sure it'll work out for you. Unfortunately people are good at not thinking how important it is to you, and maybe they don't understand that cancelling takes a huge chunk off your guest list. I hope it goes well xx

I was narked when I was asked at work if I wanted a baby shower when I was pregnant.I said I was deffo up for some kind of celebration. It ended up not happening, because "too many cooks spoiled the broth". None of them communicated with each other, they tried to organise things themselves for me without talking basically, then in the end, buggar all happened as there was NO organisation. Invitation of people was a farce. I had people coming to me asking what was going on, I was really embarrassed. 'So and so' would invited but not 'so and so', then a stupid celebration was organised (I use the term loosely) with about 3 days notice, so nobody was really up for coming and it got cancelled...crap like that.

When baby was 6 weeks old, I invited a select few round to my house over for a drink and cake....it was lovely and they all attended because I'd been selective in who I invited I guess. But I still feel I missed out on a proper celebration/shower experience.

I felt too much of a loser to make my gathering 'showerish' MYSELF..so I didn't do anything sweet like balloons, or cute baby themed things or anything like that. I think that should be up to others to do for you. I never let on to them though..but was rather dissapointed.

 

[AC1987]

I would feel the same way! As it is, my LO's 1st bday is 2 months away, and only my DH's friends are coming. none of my family are coming.. well they kinda live far away but its still sad.

 

[Buddysmum89]

do u go to any groups? any other friends or family with babies? invite them. im the same with friends and really only have 2 close friends (i like it that way though) but quite a lot of acquaintances but ive already thought about the fact that id have no1 at my sons 1st bday lol. but oh well!x

I don't go to any baby groups as I'm really scared of people! As stupid as that sounds and I've heard such strange things about em all having competitions whose lo is doing things before others and I can't really be doing with that!!!

It's gotten even worse now!! Now only 2 people are coming!! This day can't get any worse and it already has!! I'm in 2 minds whether to cancel the party as its hardly worth it for 2 people (and my brother and girlfriend)

I have the worst, stupidest, useless friends ever!!!!! :angry:

 

[kitabird]

I don't go to any baby groups as I'm really scared of people! As stupid as that sounds and I've heard such strange things about em all having competitions whose lo is doing things before others and I can't really be doing with that!!!

It's gotten even worse now!! Now only 2 people are coming!! This day can't get any worse and it already has!! I'm in 2 minds whether to cancel the party as its hardly worth it for 2 people (and my brother and girlfriend)

I have the worst, stupidest, useless friends ever!!!!! :angry:

What happened in the end? Hope you did something nice with your LO regardless.
As for baby groups, I'm nervous of groups of people/strangers too, so I get where you're coming from. Going to groups is the best thing I did though. Sometimes I've felt out of place, but then I've made some friends too. Give it a go, you might find another lonely mum there. If not and you're uncomfortable you don't have to go back xx