Feeling angry and powerless when TTC, anyone else?

[tigerlilly]

Over the last few weeks i've become more and more angry and feeling totally powerless about trying to concieve, it's over taking my life and i don't know how to make it better anymore! all i want to do is be a mom and give dh a baby.

I'm now totally filled with hatred for my SIL and Dh's family since she admitted that she should have waited before she got pregnant, Dh's parents can't be bothered with us ( their whole world evolves around BIL and SIL )and were sick of trying to get them to know we are still here. I just don't know what to do this whole thing is tearing me apart, dh doesn't want anything to do with his family.

How do i make this better?

 

[wilsons228]

I know how you feel hun, i had to take a step back this month. We still tried this month but i wasnt so focused about doing everything perfectly and i feel a lot better. We took a weekend away for ourselves...
I know what yoiu mean i get so angry when i see other pregnant people and i feel like im dissapointing my OH everytime aunt flo comes... i guess thats what this sites for..so were here for each other.
I know its easier said than done but you have to somehow detach yourself a little...i went out drank some wine and had a ggrand old time. anything to keep your mind off of it.

F'X for you hun!

 

[SLH]

Hope can make it all better. It will happen it just takes more time for some people. I know for a fact that we will both have babies in the year 2012. Believe me! If you want something bad enough it will happen even if it takes a really long time. Good things come to those who wait

 

[tigerlilly]

Hope can make it all better. It will happen it just takes more time for some people. I know for a fact that we will both have babies in the year 2012. Believe me! If you want something bad enough it will happen even if it takes a really long time. Good things come to those who wait

Oh SLH i hope so, i'm sitting hear with tears falling i just can't do this for much longer. I hope ur right. I'm just so frustrated and angry with everything I'm worried that its taking so long we won't be able to have a second! or even the first, Having a bad day i guess.
I wonder if i stop wanting a girl so bad we might get a BFP if i hope for a boy! how stupid is that?

 

[VMAG]

I am in the SAME EXACT position as you. I feel like you actually described MY in-laws. Let's just try to focus on our own happiness. Screw them!

 

[whimesy3]

Seems that most people get babies when they don't want one. Life really is strange and unfair at times. Don't give up hope. I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Virtual hug XX

 

[beccad]

You're not stupid How long have you been trying? (sorry, I don't come in here much so don't see what everyone is up to!)

I find it easier the cycles where I take things a bit easy and don't take my temperature or anything like that. Just carrying on as normal I guess. Constantly monitoring everything, and in all honesty looking at this site daily, just makes me a little frantic. The cycles when I'm counting down the days and analysing ever little twinge are definitely harder.

 

[tigerlilly]

You're not stupid How long have you been trying? (sorry, I don't come in here much so don't see what everyone is up to!)

I find it easier the cycles where I take things a bit easy and don't take my temperature or anything like that. Just carrying on as normal I guess. Constantly monitoring everything, and in all honesty looking at this site daily, just makes me a little frantic. The cycles when I'm counting down the days and analysing ever little twinge are definitely harder.

We have been trying for over a year. Dh has a dr's appointment next week to see about getting spermies tested.

 

[Alexiussierra]

That is exactly how I've been feeling. My friend came to me on my birthday to tell me she was pregnant knowing Dh and I have been trying for over a year. I'm so angry with her and everyone else that makes it seem like getting pregnant is the easiest thing in the world. It's very frustrating. This month has been the worst for me as well... I can't seem to pull myself together emotionally so I know exactly where you're coming from. I hope this month is better for you. We all need to try and be positive.

 

[tigerlilly]

That is exactly how I've been feeling. My friend came to me on my birthday to tell me she was pregnant knowing Dh and I have been trying for over a year. I'm so angry with her and everyone else that makes it seem like getting pregnant is the easiest thing in the world. It's very frustrating. This month has been the worst for me as well... I can't seem to pull myself together emotionally so I know exactly where you're coming from. I hope this month is better for you. We all need to try and be positive.

Thank you for sharing your story, what a difficult situation for you . I hope this month is better for you as well. Much love and to you xx

 

[Blessed2b]

Hey ladies I'm sorry you're feeling like this. If it's any consolation I feel the same. It's heartbreaker we've only been ttc 6 months now but I think we all feel the same. I just want it so bad. I can't get my head around doing everything right and not getting the desired result. I'm used to working hard for things and seeing the fritution of my labour so I understand the powerless you feel.

Dh says I'm being too hard on myself but how do you switch off from something you want so badly. Im fed up now. Its cd2 for me today so this isn't helping my mood but I just feel so fed up. It has to happen sooner or later, I guess that what we all need to hold onto.

Thinking of you all and hoping we all get our BFPs soon x x x x