Feeling broody!

[lepaskilf]

So we have a beautiful 2 year old, I'll confess.... Not planned! But loved to bits and wouldn't change it for the world!!!

Before DS we didn't want kids, and for the past 2 years with him we've certainly not wanted anymore due to many reasons such as money, house size, going back to work, selfish reasons such as easier holidays!

But now he's 2 I'm feeling very broody but the only reason I can think of having another is for DS to have a bro or sis. No other reason!

Is this a phase which will pass?

 

[OliviaRae]

I don't know, my "baby fever" use to come and go, but lately I've been extremely broody for months now! I don't know what to do, haha. So it could just be a phase, but I don't know. What does your OH thing? Or have you mentioned it to him....

 

[cleckner04]

I've got baby fever as well. I'm not so certain that it will go away. I worry that it will never go away and I'll forever be jealous of pregnant women.

 

[lepaskilf]

I've no idea where it's come from! It just appeared all of a sudden!.... I think it's because I look at my little boy playing on his own and thing awww it'd be really nice for him to have a sibling!

I know this is a great reason, but I can think of lots of reasons not to have another but the reason to is just overpowering!

I know you guys are waiting to try... so what is it your are waiting for? More money, better career? Bigger house?..... I think I should wait as we have all of these issues but then I think if we leave it any longer then the age gap might be too great for them to benefit from eachother!

 

[cleckner04]

I'm sort of in between right now. My husband is in the Navy and his ship keeps leaving and coming back. So last month I was TTC, this month I'm waiting bc he's gone until october. We have one more month to try before he deploys for 6.5 months in November. So our waiting isn't really by our own choice.

I am starting to be concerned about age gaps as well. Mostly because women on this forum seem to stick with small age gaps only and go on about it being the best. But I keep trying to remind myself that my brother and I are 4 years apart in age and we still talk regularly even though we are 1300 miles apart location-wise since I've had to move away for my DH's job. If I could be pregnant tomorrow with a snap of the fingers I totally would. I wish it was that easy.

 

[lepaskilf]

Yeah I was also with the thought that we want a big age gap (well actually we were with the thought of only having one lol!) But now I want another, I still want a bigger age gap.

I've never wanted close together as the thought just scares me!!! Having a toddler running about not really understanding much, whilst feeding a new born arghh!!

I thought maybe a good 4-5 yr age gap, that way my DS will be in school and I can concentrate on the newborn without getting stressed!... but will they bond with that bigger age gap?

If we try now there will be a 3 year gap... Ooh it's so difficult to control your heart and your head at the same time!

 

[Mientjie]

I am also feeling incredibly broody these days. I am not sure it is a phase, as with my two kids I felt the same and it only "ended" when I was actually pregnant. Hehe, dont just have a child because you are broody though. But a sibling for your child would be a great thing, you will never look back!