Feeling fat,frumpy and ugly....

Discussion in 'Pregnancy - Third Trimester' started by natasja32, Mar 23, 2010.

  1. natasja32

    natasja32 Mum to 4 boys

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    I just had a look on my fb and one of my hubbys ex gf sisters commented on his status. I had a look from my profile and she has pics of her and her sister(hubbies ex) on her profile.Well they were engaged to be married so they were more than just dating. She just looks so perfect..blond and beautifull and i feel so fat,frumpy and ugly after seeing what she looked like. To think he could ave been married to her but instead he has me who is always in tracky bottoms with my hair tied up and no make up. I just feel really crap and where i wasnt feeling particularly sexy before i feel even less so now.:cry: I know im growing a another little person and i am so gratefull esp after losing our little boy last year.....but i feel so sorry for my husband being married to someone like me who looks like ive been dragged through a bush backwards and im always ill and on bedrest with this bubba.:cry:
     
  2. modo

    modo WAHP

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    Don't be so hard on your self hon :hugs: He married you because he loves you :hugs: Being pregnant is not easy on your body esp in the third tri. You are the mother of his babies :hugs:
     
  3. Shinning_Star

    Shinning_Star WTT for a possible no4???

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    Aww, don't be harsh on yourself hunni! He obviously loves you just because they were enagegd to be married doens't mean anything after all they didnt get married. YOu and OH have been through so much, you must be made for one another to have pulled each other through all you've been through!

    I also have to add, I keep seeing your avatar and think you looks abs great, there's nothing there but designer style bump! Lol you can't tell the difference between my arse and my bump! it's everywhere!

    he loves you hun, and it makes everything that happened before you irrelevant!

    Huge hugs
     
  4. happymamma

    happymamma Well-Known Member

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    Oh sweety, I get days like that,.. I actually went through a month straight feeling so fat and ugly I didnt want to be seen in public!

    You have something way more beautiful then his ex has, or will EVER have, and thats his precious baby! You have a bond with him no other can match! Just keep in mind, he ISN'T married to her, he's married to you! Pregnancy is actually a beautiful thing, even though we dont feel that way. Imagine how insugnificant she would feel to see you right now, glowing and radiant! According to your pic, you're adorable,.. and have the cutest perfect belly! Its something to be proud of! :hugs:
     
  5. natasja32

    natasja32 Mum to 4 boys

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    Thanks girls....I just feel really pooh at the moment. Sorry im just feeling sorry for myself. Thanks for all being so kind.:hugs:
     
  6. E&L's mummy

    E&L's mummy mum to 3 amazing girls

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    moan away hun. we all need to at times. i know how you feel. have a look at my FB piccies and you will see what a heffer i am. but 15 years later we are still together. i think you reach a point where you see beyond the looks side of things and i bet you hubby is the same. xxxxxxxxxx
     
  7. E&L's mummy

    E&L's mummy mum to 3 amazing girls

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    ps you may be in trackies etc but your bump is such a perfect shape. mine has the biggest bag of flab at the bottom of it. i would show you but i dont want to make you throw up. xxxxxxxxxx
     
  8. aladrian

    aladrian Well-Known Member

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    Completely understand hon. :hugs: Been having quite a few feeling ugly days myself. Fortunately for me my hubby (who was also engaged to someone else before marrying me) makes it a point to tell me how attractive I am & how much he loves me so that helps though it still doesn't completely alleviate the currently ugly feeling or the feeling that I may never get back to attractive again.

    At any rate, I agree with the others' comments...your bump is so cute!
     
  9. tickledpink3

    tickledpink3 Mommy to Olivia and Aubre

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    I had an ugly day and I just pampered myself. Pampering during pregnancy can be something as small as shaving your legs, believe me lol But take a day off and treat yourself. I bet your hubby isn't even bothered. Wanna bet? Go and offer sex and I guarantee he won't say no lol (just a little joke to make you smile) And when my bump grows up, I hope it looks just like yours
     
  10. Lauraxamy

    Lauraxamy Well-Known Member

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    We all have days like this so don't worry about it :hugs: we also all need days to be lazy and not wear make up and dress in trackies, I know I do it loads. Your husband obviously finds you very attractive, lazy day or not, pregnant or not he loves you for who you are aswell, he must do he married you not her! Now you're carrying his baby which is a beautiful natural thing and your bump is also beautiful :hugs:
     
  11. lauralora

    lauralora Well-Known Member

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    awww, its so normal to feel this way when your pregnant! im exactly the same, ive always been confident about being enough for my bf in the past, but since ive become pregnant i get scared he looks at me and regrets being with me, ive put weight on, we cant have sex (due to my bleeding problems) and i dont wear the same lovely clothes i could before i was preg anymore. i feel even more insecure with summer coming up and all the girls out in the gorgeous dresses and summer skirts, then theres me with leggins and a baggy shirt lol xx
     
  12. mommy-in-june

    mommy-in-june Bodhi's Mommy

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    Aww sweetie... definitely understand. Don't compare yourself to non-pregnant women! :) Obviously she wasn't good enough for him, and look - he's having a baby with you, the biggest of all steps! He must love you to pieces. Make sure he gives you an extra hug tonight! :hugs:
     
  13. lizzieredrup

    lizzieredrup Mum to 5 little men!

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    Awww hun, im sorry your feeling like this, wish I could make you see how great you actually do look! I also have the same problem, I have put on so much weight lately I feel terrible, I just have to keep telling myself that my OH loves me no matter what and im sure that is the same for your hubby! I bet your the most beautiful person in his eyes.

    I think i've felt like this everytime im pregnant lol I suffer with low confidence anyway but always seem to be worse while pregnant, there is obviously a good reason why he is married to you and not her :D your gorgeous!:hugs: xxx
     
  14. Cactusgirl

    Cactusgirl Home birth hopeful

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    Pah who would want to be with little MISS Looks perfect anyway - she is probably boring as sin.

    Your DH married YOU coz you were HIS MRS Perfect and he wanted YOU to carry his babies and be with your forever!! And he probably thinks you look gorgeous in your trackies with your bump because you are doing the most important job in the world - carrying his baby!! :hugs:
     

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