kiwilove
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Im looking for reassurance and support. Please no negative comments. I know what I have done is wrong and am trying to change it. long post.
So I had my first ultrasound today, what an amazing feeling. It is still hard for me to believe there is a baby in there.
My issue is I am a smoker, and have been smoking everyday mostly a pack a day. I was a pack and a half a day smoker before I found out I was pregnant and cut down to a pack. I'm not going to pretend that I have been successfully cutting down, which was my plan. I have been lying to my family a friends about this saying I have been only smoking 8 to 15 a day. I am owning up to my mistake now. I just had so much guilt for smoking that I would lie to others about it. It is so much harder then I thought it would be.
I have been trying to get pregnant for over 3 years, had a mc in march at 6w2d, didnt quit then either. I always said that I would quit the moment I found out the next time around but I found myself so much more worried and scared of losing this one that smoking seemed to calm my nerves.
I had many thoughts of "all our parents smoked with us and we turned out fine" "I know people who smoked throughout there whole pregnancy and their babies are just fine" "I will quit soon" "Just make it past the 12 weeks once the danger zone is over then quit" "quitting will cause a mc" "too much stress on the baby if I quit" Just stupid thoughts like that, that kept me smoking and thinking it would be ok.
Well the ultrasound, which was my first has completely freaked me out. I guess because I didnt really have proof that there was actually a baby in there, and seeing my baby has made it real and has given me he motivation to quit, I hope.
My husband outright freaked out at me tonight when I told him I had not quit yet (I had told him once I know everything is fine with the baby I will quit, on ultrasound day..today)...well he said if anything happens to our baby it is YOUR fault, YOUR being selfish, I dont care about you it's about the baby...It was so0o0o harsh to hear and I was really angry with him for putting that on me...but I needed it, and im glad he did...tough love. He told me to give him my cigs and I said no, I have to do it on my own time, I have to be ready. Well it took me about 5 minutes to realize that he is right and I just need to do it...and what helped me realize that he was right was that I went on FB and the first thing on my news feed was about a couple having to buy a casket for their unborn baby, I took it as a sign and gave him my cigs.
I have no willpower and an addiction to cigs, I'm scared I will fail at quitting. I'm so nervous it will cause stress on the baby and that I could mc...please reassure me. I know that quitting smoking is the best thing I could do for my baby, and I plan on keeping pictures of the scan on me at all times for those moments when cravings hit. any advice or tips...please no rude comments, I'm looking for help.
So I had my first ultrasound today, what an amazing feeling. It is still hard for me to believe there is a baby in there.
My issue is I am a smoker, and have been smoking everyday mostly a pack a day. I was a pack and a half a day smoker before I found out I was pregnant and cut down to a pack. I'm not going to pretend that I have been successfully cutting down, which was my plan. I have been lying to my family a friends about this saying I have been only smoking 8 to 15 a day. I am owning up to my mistake now. I just had so much guilt for smoking that I would lie to others about it. It is so much harder then I thought it would be.
I have been trying to get pregnant for over 3 years, had a mc in march at 6w2d, didnt quit then either. I always said that I would quit the moment I found out the next time around but I found myself so much more worried and scared of losing this one that smoking seemed to calm my nerves.
I had many thoughts of "all our parents smoked with us and we turned out fine" "I know people who smoked throughout there whole pregnancy and their babies are just fine" "I will quit soon" "Just make it past the 12 weeks once the danger zone is over then quit" "quitting will cause a mc" "too much stress on the baby if I quit" Just stupid thoughts like that, that kept me smoking and thinking it would be ok.
Well the ultrasound, which was my first has completely freaked me out. I guess because I didnt really have proof that there was actually a baby in there, and seeing my baby has made it real and has given me he motivation to quit, I hope.
My husband outright freaked out at me tonight when I told him I had not quit yet (I had told him once I know everything is fine with the baby I will quit, on ultrasound day..today)...well he said if anything happens to our baby it is YOUR fault, YOUR being selfish, I dont care about you it's about the baby...It was so0o0o harsh to hear and I was really angry with him for putting that on me...but I needed it, and im glad he did...tough love. He told me to give him my cigs and I said no, I have to do it on my own time, I have to be ready. Well it took me about 5 minutes to realize that he is right and I just need to do it...and what helped me realize that he was right was that I went on FB and the first thing on my news feed was about a couple having to buy a casket for their unborn baby, I took it as a sign and gave him my cigs.
I have no willpower and an addiction to cigs, I'm scared I will fail at quitting. I'm so nervous it will cause stress on the baby and that I could mc...please reassure me. I know that quitting smoking is the best thing I could do for my baby, and I plan on keeping pictures of the scan on me at all times for those moments when cravings hit. any advice or tips...please no rude comments, I'm looking for help.